Superthread LXI - No longer honouring AdamKungl for his birthday as it has now passed

[Alba]

The only thing is, if you're physically attractive and you're a merkin, it cancels it out. Inner beauty is more attractive on a deeper level

 

[RHCP]

Everybody wants to be beautiful on the outside. I don't care how comfortable you are, if given the choice, everyone would look better.

Yeah I absolutely agree with that. I mean being comfortable with things you cannot change about yourself.

 

[Dani]

Everybody wants to be beautiful on the outside. I don't care how comfortable you are, if given the choice, everyone would look better.

Weerrrd. Show me a woman that wouldn't change anything about her body and I'll show you a liar.

 

[Drew-Sta]

He does believe it now according to mutual friends. And he won't f**king stop texting me asking for forgiveness.

Yay for my life.

If I may, it might be time to evaluate if forgiveness is possible. You don't have to have any contact or relationship with him at all, but part of the recovery process is being able to forgive and move on as to not do so will eat you up.

Happy to talk offline about it if you like Just want the best for you.

Everybody wants to be beautiful on the outside. I don't care how comfortable you are, if given the choice, everyone would look better.

Totally agree. But then why do people post things about true beauty being on the inside after they post a selfie of them in the most suggestive pose and all dolled up? This is the contradiction I don't understand.

 

[Dani]

I really do wish life was like Shallow Hal.

 

[RHCP]

Because likes.

 

[Dani]

You're right Drew. It's easier not to hate the guy. But suddenly asking for forgiveness after more than a year of saying horrible things about me to my friends, on top of all the other stuff? I need time too.

Something I have thought long and hard about since he first texted me.on Christmas day.

 

[Joker's Wild]

 

[afinalsin666]

Totally agree. But then why do people post things about true beauty being on the inside after they post a selfie of them in the most suggestive pose and all dolled up? This is the contradiction I don't understand.

It's only a contradiction if they look down on another person that's ugly without seeing the inside.

Talking about self, there's no contradiction. Everyone thinks they are beautiful on the inside. I think they are talking about treating uglies with respect, rather than wanting their outer beauty disregarded.

 

[sportive cupid]

He does believe it now according to mutual friends. And he won't f**king stop texting me asking for forgiveness.

Yay for my life.

How do you feel about his texting you all the time about this?

 

[Dani]

How do you feel about his texting you all the time about this?

I said it makes me feel guilty.

 

[afinalsin666]

If he truly wants forgiveness, let him stew. If guilt really is eating him up, good. May change his shit if he suffers enough.

 

[sportive cupid]

Everybody wants to be beautiful on the outside. I don't care how comfortable you are, if given the choice, everyone would look better.

The thing is,beauty on the outside is actually enhanced by beauty on the inside ,never the reverse.

have you ever noticed how your friends get better looking as you get to know them? that's because the inside is showing on the outside.

shallow Hal wasn't too far off the mark .

 

[sportive cupid]

I said it makes me feel guilty.

Do you want him to stop then ?

 

[Drew-Sta]

You're right Drew. It's easier not to hate the guy. But suddenly asking for forgiveness after more than a year of saying horrible things about me to my friends, on top of all the other stuff? I need time too.

Something I have thought long and hard about since he first texted me.on Christmas day.

Of course. Time is necessary. But beginning to think about it is a positive first step.

Everybody wants to be beautiful on the outside. I don't care how comfortable you are, if given the choice, everyone would look better.

The only thing is, if you're physically attractive and you're a merkin, it cancels it out. Inner beauty is more attractive on a deeper level

Agree with both.

 

[Drew-Sta]

The thing is,beauty on the outside is actually enhanced by beauty on the inside ,never the reverse.

have you ever noticed how your friends get better looking as you get to know them? that's because the inside is showing on the outside.

shallow Hal wasn't too far off the mark .

Agree with the completely, I must admit.

 

[sportive cupid]

I really do wish life was like Shallow Hal.

It actually is .Thats what I'm saying.Most of us just don't notice it.

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

You're right Drew. It's easier not to hate the guy. But suddenly asking for forgiveness after more than a year of saying horrible things about me to my friends, on top of all the other stuff? I need time too.

Something I have thought long and hard about since he first texted me.on Christmas day.

Dani, this dude is bad news. If I were in your shoes, I'd be doing everything I could to lose all contact with him. New phone number, block on Facebook, hang out less with mutual friends.

He is a merkin. Merkins never change. He doesn't deserve to have any contact with you. He ruined that privilege for himself. By you continuing to talk to him, you are actually validating his behavior. Giving him a chance to wheedle his way back into your life. He will tell you he has changed and is sorry but none of that is true.

 

[afinalsin666]

Kaepernik is cool. Love off the cuff plays.

 

[Dani]

Do you want him to stop then ?

Don't get me wrong. I'm glad he's changed because I wouldn't want the next girl to go through what I did. But it's a big ask after being angry/ashamed/hurt for so long.

He asked to see me while I was in Sydney. And I kind of wish I had. I think he needs to see it in me just how f**ked up I am now, and I needed to see if he really is sorry.

But I'm not a strong person, and coping with something like that would have been very hard to do.