Morning!
I think the aspects of friendship and sexual chemistry are both vital. I've had a wonderfully warm and supportive relationship where we just weren't nuts about one another, and ultimately we broke up.
I've had relationships where we f**ked like rabbits and liked one another, but didn't have the friendship needed to sustain us over a long time.
Still trying to find that perfect balance.
Now that I'm a bit older, I probably would too. I remember being dissatisfied sexually in my long-term relationship, but I'd give most anything for that level of security, support, and friendship now.
I think a lot of sex is 'try, try again' as I think most people can be compatible. But if all you have is sex, then when you're older, the relationship has no foundation.
Personally, I think the chemistry bit is what the courting process is. Work out whether you're drawn to this person for her personality, there's trust, a physcial attraction... This is why I think courting is still necessary.
Drew has such high hopes for life. Wish I could.
I do have ideals. The problem is I know not all of them come about
But I strive. I think you have to strive for them.
Sorry Michael.
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The emotional component is an invention of, and a throwback to, past attitudes towards sex IMO. I am not saying that it's not emotional, more that there are times when it is emotional and times when it's just sex. People put far too much value on sex, yes, I agree. But it's the emotional value that is overrepresented IMO. It's a base function...it can be something incredibly important, but it can also just be two people having some fun and that's not less important an experience.
I'd argue the emotional is misunderstood. I get the primal, base funciton bit. I do think couples can engage in sex in that manner.
But to do it without the emotional commitment to each other is hazardous.
The point about primal instinct was only intended for the 'sex before marriage' argument. i.e, I agree it can be (and generally is more) than that when you're emotionally involved with a person. However that does not mean it always has to be approached that way. We're still animals after all. I think the emotional component is overstated or over-exaggerated by some world-views I suppose.
As above, I think couples have a whole range of different 'sex'; sometimes it is having sex, sometimes it is making love, sometimes it is just bonking. My argument is it can only be done safest when you have the emotional commitment. Otherwise, as has been stated by a number of people here, someone will get work.
I've heard that from plenty of people. It's about how people psychologically view sex. There's nothing wrong with it. It just a less common view these days IMO, and there's nothing wrong with that either.
I'm interested in why the psychological view you speak of is less common these days. What do you think changed?
But. At the end of the day it got messy and I believe i deserve better.
Because you do
1 Cor 7:1-9 identifies Paul's positive view of sex. Song of Solomon is another place where sex is viewed erotically, passionately and with implicit meaning that sex is to be enjoyed and engaged in without guilt by married parties.
Saw karnivool and dead letter circus play a double header last night...
Awesome gig but sooooo tired this morning..
I hate mid-week gigs, but Melbourne always seems to cop them..
Melbourne get them because noone in Sydney goes to them mid-week. Too many workaholics up here.
Might be time to go the single route again me feels.
Aww, that sucks dude
Decided it's time I quit my job and look for a new one. Going to try see out the month but it's tempting to just leave today.
Where were you working? Didn't you just start about 12 months ago? Sorry to hear it is getting unbearable.
