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lingard

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I don't know if the guy is "good", you'd need a baseline to compare it to , and being in a regional centre specialists are thin on the ground, so try like six months plus for an initial consult, very hard to shop around.

What I do know though is that after having meds prescribed that initially seemed to work, then didn't, the only response was to keep upping the dosage, which inevitably required upping again, to the point of hey hang on this is insane.

On seeing the Psychiatrist, the meds were changed, monitored, changed and monitored, the end result thus far less meds, smaller dosages, and most importantly progress to the point that she's now happy ( most of the time )

It sounds such a small thing being happy, but f**k it's a huge difference.
If he seems to understand your daughters situation; if she and you are happy with the result so far, then for this circumstance he's good.
 

Happy MEel

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I'd love to meet you guys in real life.

But something that is a part of my condition, I suppose, is an intense fear of people; I'm terrified of meeting new people.

Literally, to the point of getting heart palpitations, sweats, and mild chest pains.
Completely understand mate, but if Suity and I catch up on the weekend, that invitation will be extended to everyone on here, including your good self. Knowing what you’ve just written, if you decide to meet, I’ll try to make you as welcome and comfortable as possible and you’re free to leave at any stage without judgement if it all gets too much.
@suity, the missus is out with the girls on Friday night, which bodes well for a leave pass on Saturday. I’ll keep you posted.
 

Stevie

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First of all this thread is unreal! Seriously awesome.

I just wrote a long post and deleted it realising I don’t want to go into that tonight. But I’m saying that, reading the other posts actually was really refreshing. Just realising that hey, a lot of people have a lot of shit going on.

Thanks for creating this thread. I think it’s incredibly important.
 

Gronk

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I'd love to meet you guys in real life.

But something that is a part of my condition, I suppose, is an intense fear of people; I'm terrified of meeting new people.

Literally, to the point of getting heart palpitations, sweats, and mild chest pains.
Social anxiety sucks mate. Have you ever been taught “grounding” exercises for when you are at a peak anxiety ?

I’m sure that it would have been brought up in CBT, but it’s probably the last thing that comes to mind when you are feeling like you are being chased by a lion. I guess it’s a thing that you need to practice.
 

Eelementary

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Social anxiety sucks mate. Have you ever been taught “grounding” exercises for when you are at a peak anxiety ?

I’m sure that it would have been brought up in CBT, but it’s probably the last thing that comes to mind when you are feeling like you are being chased by a lion. I guess it’s a thing that you need to practice.

One of my psychologists taught me a few exercises that do help.

I guess the combination of depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem makes it quite a challenge!

One of my psychologists also touched on how my upbringing - moving around different countries a lot when I was a kid, due to my dad's job - probably did not help me learn social cues like other kids.

And I think she had a point - I recall thinking to myself at many stages growing up, "There's no point making friends; we will just move country in a few years, anyway."

That can't have been good for my social skills development.
 

strider

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I always remember something that made a big difference to me .... back in 2002 a very close relo was having some significant mental health issues, and i wasnt coping particularly well either. I told work i was going to take some time off.

one of the senior tech dudes i worked with then came to me and asked me to go have a chat ... he then told me all about his life and how he has ongoing issues. I had no idea. I knew he seemed a bit moody at times, but arent we all .... anyway, i always remember him saying something along the lines of - you walk down the street, most people you see will have some problems, cos we all do, some worse than others, but everyone has their issues .... i was alot younger then and had probably never thought about it like that. It helped me.

Hearing his stories was immense help to me at the time. He didnt have to tell me his personal issues .... i and others close to me have had some mixed experiences with psycologists and psychiatritsts since then, with some pretty poor results ...... i think the most positive impact i have ever had personally was this chat with a work colleague.
 

Happy MEel

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I always remember something that made a big difference to me .... back in 2002 a very close relo was having some significant mental health issues, and i wasnt coping particularly well either. I told work i was going to take some time off.

one of the senior tech dudes i worked with then came to me and asked me to go have a chat ... he then told me all about his life and how he has ongoing issues. I had no idea. I knew he seemed a bit moody at times, but arent we all .... anyway, i always remember him saying something along the lines of - you walk down the street, most people you see will have some problems, cos we all do, some worse than others, but everyone has their issues .... i was alot younger then and had probably never thought about it like that. It helped me.

Hearing his stories was immense help to me at the time. He didnt have to tell me his personal issues .... i and others close to me have had some mixed experiences with psycologists and psychiatritsts since then, with some pretty poor results ...... i think the most positive impact i have ever had personally was this chat with a work colleague.
Thanks for sharing mate. Just my uneducated opinion but I think the more this is talked about, the less isolated people will feel. The less isolated people feel, hopefully the more likely they are to seek help if they need it.
 

Gronk

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Thanks for sharing mate. Just my uneducated opinion but I think the more this is talked about, the less isolated people will feel. The less isolated people feel, hopefully the more likely they are to seek help if they need it.
To add to that, we all have our own baggage. Whilst a woman will likely dump their entire life story on the hairdresser, a girlfriend etc men will just hang on to it and let it white-ant them. We need to learn to share. The problem with sharing is that we fear being judged or labelled.

Mental health is still largely looked down upon and as much as these RUOK? etc campaigns are breaking the ice, most of us could never share their inner most troubles with work collegues. You'd be open for ridicule and (from a managment POV) likley set aside when job advancement is in consideration.

Maybe one day a conversation of "I have a generalized anxiety disorder" will be treated the same as "I have diabetes".
 

I bleed blue & gold

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First of all this thread is unreal! Seriously awesome.

I just wrote a long post and deleted it realising I don’t want to go into that tonight. But I’m saying that, reading the other posts actually was really refreshing. Just realising that hey, a lot of people have a lot of shit going on.

Thanks for creating this thread. I think it’s incredibly important.
Share whenever you want or are ready to, Stevie.
 

hybrideel

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I have an anxiety disorder which makes certain aspects of my life difficult so I try to avoid it as much as possible. Been happening since I was in year 7 and had to do a speech in front of class. All of a sudden I got a rash on my neck and face and tears starting coming out. As you can imagine, a bunch of 12 year old were very supportive of my predicament.
Since that day, any speech, job interview, meeting someone new, presentation at work, even sometimes ordering a damn pizza over the phone I would sometimes be in tears.
I can brush it off on the odd occasion by calling it allergies, but you can only do that so often with the same people.
 

Gronk

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I have an anxiety disorder which makes certain aspects of my life difficult so I try to avoid it as much as possible. Been happening since I was in year 7 and had to do a speech in front of class. All of a sudden I got a rash on my neck and face and tears starting coming out. As you can imagine, a bunch of 12 year old were very supportive of my predicament.
Since that day, any speech, job interview, meeting someone new, presentation at work, even sometimes ordering a damn pizza over the phone I would sometimes be in tears.
I can brush it off on the odd occasion by calling it allergies, but you can only do that so often with the same people.
Thanks for sharing.

I have been provided some stuff from the RUOK? day people that might be helpful to those who suffer from GAD.

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* Stay in the present moment. Anxiety can make your thoughts live in a terrible future that hasn’t happened yet. Try to bring yourself back to where you are.

* Healthy lifestyle. Keeping active, eating well, going out into nature, spending time with family and friends, reducing stress and doing the activities you enjoy are all effective in reducing anxiety and improving your wellbeing.

* Take small acts of bravery. Avoiding what makes you anxious provides some relief in the short term, but can make you more anxious in the long term. Try approaching something that makes you anxious – even in a small way. The way through anxiety is by learning that what you fear isn’t likely to happen – and if it does, you’ll be able to cope with it.

* Challenge your self-talk. How you think affects how you feel. Anxiety can make you overestimate the danger in a situation and underestimate your ability to handle it. Try to think of different interpretations to a situation that’s making you anxious, rather than jumping to the worst-case scenario. Look at the facts for and against your thought being true.

* Plan worry time. It’s hard to stop worrying entirely so set aside some time to indulge your worries. Even 10 minutes each evening to write them down or go over them in your head can help stop your worries from taking over at other times.

* Get to know your anxiety. Keep a diary of when it’s at it’s best – and worst. Find the patterns and plan your week – or day – to proactively manage your anxiety.

* Learn from others. Talking with others who also experience anxiety – or are going through something similar – can help you feel less alone. Visit our Online Forums to connect with others.

* Be kind to yourself. Remember that you are not your anxiety. You are not weak. You are not inferior. You have a mental health condition. It’s called anxiety.
 

emjaycee

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I was just at a charity grants event this morning and came across this charity that is local to Pmtta and surrounds.


They seem to be doing some good stuff in the mental health area for adults and children.

Might be worth a look for some.
 

TheParraboy

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This guy was in Australia a few years ago helping create awareness with mental illness. He is a suicide survivor (Golden Gate bridge where only 1% of jumpers survive)
Worth a look. He has a doco out Suicide the Ripple effect

I see you all as my Parra brothers and sisters, you all are welcome to PM anytime to chat

Its ok not to be ok

 
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Gronk

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I feel so much better after some exercise, whether it be a jog, workout, long walk with the dog etc.

and when I force myself to do it I realise a better after effect and a greater mental lift.

PS - it can’t be done after dinner. Do it before you eat. 😉
Endorphines baby.

 

TheParraboy

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I feel so much better after some exercise, whether it be a jog, workout, long walk with the dog etc.

and when I force myself to do it I realise a better after effect and a greater mental lift.

PS - it can’t be done after dinner. Do it before you eat. 😉


So true

Cant be underestimated what it does to help mentally

Started regular weight training/ boxing again, few months back and feel so much between the ears, let alone body shaping up as well
 

Angry_eel

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This year for the first time ever, I started getting anxiety about my life, professional and personal. I've had anxiety about Football and Interviews but nothing like "My world is ending. Everything is shit in my life".

Maybe it is the turning 35 this year. Roughly halfway there.

I'm dealing with it the only way I know how - Religion.

Thanks for reading. Have a nice day!
 

Happy MEel

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This year for the first time ever, I started getting anxiety about my life, professional and personal. I've had anxiety about Football and Interviews but nothing like "My world is ending. Everything is shit in my life".

Maybe it is the turning 35 this year. Roughly halfway there.

I'm dealing with it the only way I know how - Religion.

Thanks for reading. Have a nice day!
Thanks for sharing mate, takes real courage to speak up about this in an open forum. I’m glad religion has provided you with the support you need. I’m not a particularly religious person so not sure I’m much use there, but happy to talk footy or life in general any time. Look after yourself and feel free to post in here if you feel like a chat. Cheers
 

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