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Hi,
First time parent here, and the first time I've been in this predicament, so am seeking advice from all the other parents out there who have lived with the terminal illness of a loved one and have had to tell kids of primary school age exactly what's going on.
My Mother is terminally ill with a frontal lobe brain tumour. I'd be very surprised if she sees Christmas. A few nights ago, my 5 &1/2 year old Daughter came up to me and asked: "Daddy, when is Nanna going to get better?"
Her question literally ripped me in two.
I picked her up, cuddled her and said "I don't know darlin." Even though I knew the truth.
(For reference, we are talking about a lady who is not in her late 60's yet and two years ago, when first diagnosed was walking, talking, could hold intelligent conversations and was giving my Daughter piggy backs. Now she has lost the power of speech and is wheelchair dependant.)
How did you as parents respond to a kid of this age? I mean I know eventually I'm going to have to be honest with her...but how do I break it?
First time parent here, and the first time I've been in this predicament, so am seeking advice from all the other parents out there who have lived with the terminal illness of a loved one and have had to tell kids of primary school age exactly what's going on.
My Mother is terminally ill with a frontal lobe brain tumour. I'd be very surprised if she sees Christmas. A few nights ago, my 5 &1/2 year old Daughter came up to me and asked: "Daddy, when is Nanna going to get better?"
Her question literally ripped me in two.
I picked her up, cuddled her and said "I don't know darlin." Even though I knew the truth.
(For reference, we are talking about a lady who is not in her late 60's yet and two years ago, when first diagnosed was walking, talking, could hold intelligent conversations and was giving my Daughter piggy backs. Now she has lost the power of speech and is wheelchair dependant.)
How did you as parents respond to a kid of this age? I mean I know eventually I'm going to have to be honest with her...but how do I break it?