Vlad59
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Earlier this year my son left our house at a time of great mental stress. He’d been assaulted by his boy friend, had been taking a lot of drugs with him (his partner is a drug and alcohol counsellor - work that one out) and he caught a plane to a Melbourne, left us and now refuses to contact us. He is 31. We love him and miss him dearly. Drugs do awful things to people we all know that. He went to Melbourne over 10 years ago, was doing well then unknown to us had some personal issues hit the drugs and had to come home. He lived with us for 5 years. We tried to leave him to his life but it was impossible due to the personal issues he confronted which we saw in front of us. His mum and I are exhausted. We have accepted he has gone back to Melbourne. We live the best life we can. We have a beautiful life with our other children and grandchildren. But this is always there. To be cut off and abandoned by a child is impossible. We didn’t fail him. He grew up, and he’s made some decisions and we, our whole family, now wear the consequences. Both my wife and I have looked back at our lives, and done the ‘where did we go wrong’ thing. She was a beautiful mom. I did my best. When he came out at 15 we embraced him and were proud of him. Every day is now full of memories and regret. I miss him terribly but I have no answers as to how to deal with this. Never take anything for granted.
