How should I feel?

[Timmah]

I realise I may have come to the wrong place given the larrikinism thats currently happening over the FFB (myself included) - but I'm looking for some serious advice.

My ex, who left me about 7 months ago, is back in town. She broke up with me on the day I got my current job - and within a couple of weeks was with one of my closest friends' mates. She's now back in town, and I've discovered the relationship, which apparently wasn't ever that strong, is finally over...

The problem is in two parts - firstly, I can't help but feel smug. She kissed him before we broke up (cheating in my book) - so naturally I feel she deserves to have karma bite her fair in the ass, no matter how fine it was. However, part of me feels sorry for her...

...which leads to my other dilemma. Chances are she'll come out with us tomorrow night in an effort to drown her sorrows. I'm worried that she'll want me back... and so will I

What should I do, and how should I feel?

 

[[furrycat]]

Move on...

Be f**king strong and don't give in...

Think about it . She's done it once and you came back, she'll do it again because she knows you'll be there if she needs you to be. I know how you feel but don't gie in and be strong. Its going to work out best in the long run.

 

[Dani]

Girls are crap, stay away from all of them.

 

[[furrycat]]

More advice from furry:

I know at times it would seem like it is the best thing and seems like it is the best relationship available (The 'one' if you like), but the fact is you're young and I'm younger than you. I am in a very similar situation but the fact is if you felt so good with someone who treated you like sh*t, imagine what its gonna be like when you find someone who is the one for you?

I'm still friendly with my ex. In fact I'm going over there tonight but I've changed my attitude towards her and she understands that. You have the right to feel smug; if you go back now you say to her its ok for her to do that and come back... even if it was just a psychotic episode for her. It ain't an excuse, and ain't an excuse to hurt you. At the moment I don't see girls as worth the effort in that department but hey, I know that is going to change. I just don't want the same sh*t to happen so I won't go back to this girl.

Do what your mind says, logically. It may seem hard to say no, but you gotta do what is best for you. Its great to be compassionate about others, but if you've lost control of yourself, you are nothing. You need to look after that big guy calling the shots; yourself.

 

[Timmah]

...Because the only person with you for your entire life, is you. It's true, and I know.

The battle is against loneliness more than anything, and she would be an easy thing to fall into (not literally).

It's gonna be hard.

 

[Timmah]

P.S. Thanks for the advice furry.


Dani, I know you don't truly believe what you said btw, guys can be just as crap.

 

[Martli]

Bro, just be a dick to her it would be funny.

 

[Dani]

Don't listen to me, i'm bitter and twisted.

 

[The Camden Leisure Pirate]

How would you feel if she hooked up with someone in front of you?

 

[[furrycat]]

...Because the only person with you for your entire life, is you. It's true, and I know.

The battle is against loneliness more than anything, and she would be an easy thing to fall into (not literally).

It's gonna be hard.

:lol:

I know what you mean (on both counts literally and metaphorically), it sucks to feel alone when its great being with someone; but it gets better. Ive actually enjoyed myself this week and tonight, we'll see how I feel after spending time doing stuff. But you gotta do whats best for you for the LONG term, not short.

 

[Timmah]

True.

JNTV, she did, less than a week after our break-up.

 

[[furrycat]]

How would you feel if she hooked up with someone in front of you?

That's what happened to me !

EDIT: Same Timmah- although it was a 'break' where she had her PMS/PMDD and blamed it on that. f**k to that I say

 

[The Camden Leisure Pirate]

True.

JNTV, she did, less than a week after our break-up.

I'm saying, tomorrow night if she is out.

 

[Timmah]

She'd broken up with me officially, but I don't get why she invited me to the party, just so I could watch it. I only went to spend time with my best friend but even that hurt for a while because she was trying to get close to my best friend

 

[The Camden Leisure Pirate]

Not the past mate, I'm saying now.....

 

[Timmah]

I'm saying, tomorrow night if she is out.

I dunno, it's been so long it probably wouldn't affect me.

There's also a part of me who just wants another one night stand for old times sake... no strings attached.

 

[[furrycat]]

I'm saying, tomorrow night if she is out.

Good point that one.

 

[tlk]

in the end it all cums down to the fact of,are u willin to go through the pain if she cheats again???do u want he that bad?
could happen....she done it once why wouldnt she do it again?

 

[[furrycat]]

I dunno, it's been so long it probably wouldn't affect me.

There's also a part of me who just wants another one night stand for old times sake... no strings attached.

I reckon it would affect ya It would with me! Especially if it was the same fella I'd be latu'ing his arse again.

 

[Dani]

I dunno, it's been so long it probably wouldn't affect me.

There's also a part of me who just wants another one night stand for old times sake... no strings attached.

There's always strings, especially if she's your ex.