the headline is ridiculous when the author is talking about all sportsmen yet it's on the news.com.au home page
https://www.whimn.com.au/love/datin...n/news-story/d19b00ab08d2f635ce7077035bcb0291
'Why I Won't Date A NRL Player Again'
The WAG life is not for me.
Jana Hocking
Whimn
February 22, 201910:39am
The trouble with dating is that more often then not you find yourself
on dates with guys that *appear* fabulous, yet wind up being so horrifically wrong for you that you start questioning your own judgement. Or at least, I do.
Multiply that by
being a WAG, and it’s a role that tests your confidence and burgeoning relationship in ways you can’t fathom.
During my time as a singleton, I have dated a number of professional sportsmen: an AFL player, NRL player, A-League player, and even a Rugby Union player.
Yes, I’m aware that sounds slightly like I’m a football groupie, but let it be known those dating periods were spread over seven years. That’s one every 1 year and 9 months. Be gone with your judgement, please.
The one thing I’ve learnt from that experience is this - professional athletes are not for me. Oh no. Most definitely not.
As with any moderately famous person, footballers are the source of much gossip. I’m not saying it’s them, because generally, it’s not. This really is a case of ‘It’s not you, it’s me.’
In fact, I'd go as far as to say they are targeted. The fun part as their partner is not knowing who, or what, to believe.
I’ve come up with a couple of reasons why.
I’m not the only one attracted to the bloke I’m dating
Nope, with a professional athlete comes a bevy of women
vying for their attention and spitting in the face of sisterhood. These women are ruthless. In fact, I’m almost in awe of their aggressive bravado. They will slide into his DMs, stalk him around a dance floor, and even butt in mid-sentence to ask for a selfie. Oh to have their confidence.
You will be expected to attend all their games
Which is fine if you like sports, but me? Not so much. And when you’re not at their games, you’ll be attending occasions solo, because they travel, a lot.
You’re not the only person they will date
Okay, so not strictly a footballer, but just this week American baseball player, Trevor Bauer, spoke to
Sports Illustrated about his rules when it comes to dating him and they were honestly brutal.
He told the publication, "As soon as I sense you’re developing feelings, I’m going to cut it off, because I’m not interested in a relationship and I’m emotionally unavailable," before adding, "No social media posts about me while we’re together, because
private life stays private."
And finally, this charm offensive, "I sleep with other people. I’m going to continue to sleep with other people. If you’re not O.K. with that, we won’t
sleep together, and that’s perfectly fine. We can just be perfectly polite platonic friends.”
Ouch.
Yet, can we just commend him for a second on his honesty?! How many guys have you ever dated, only to find out that they were thinking the exact same thing, they just never communicated it? In the fine words of queen of wisdom Maya Angelou, “When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.”
Girls will slide into YOUR DMs to tell you what your bloke has been up to
Years ago, I had been seeing a rugby league player who it turns out, was quite a ladies man. He was in Canberra one weekend for a game and a girl sent me a Facebook message to say she had hooked up with him during that weekend. Cue the tears, texts, tantrums and words not suitable for publishing on this website.
Ultimately, your self-esteem will take a hit
There will always be a girl shaking her cute, tiny butt in front of your man who is hotter than you. You will constantly be wary of them cheating, especially when they’re away on team trips, and sport will ALWAYS come first.
In saying all this, it’s not all bad. I’m focusing on the worst of it. And, I know some perfectly lovely professional athletes who worship the ground their partners walk on, as much as the hallowed turf they play on. That’s right. #NotAllSportsmen.
I raise my cap to the fierce and fabulous WAGS of this world. Your confidence, commitment and sports knowledge really is aspirational. But I could never be one of you.
