Well, you've asked people to "stop" several times - which comes with a degree of imprimatur being the Editor.
Looking back over the entire thread, when this first broke last week, I along with several other users suggested people stop normalising the behaviour Reynolds displayed in the video - that's an opinion, like others who shared the same opinion. If you are to go back and read those posts from Wed/Thu last week, that issue has been argued back and forward ad nauseum.
But for what it's worth, my role is completely irrelevant to my opinion, as it would be with any moderator or administrator from
@Willow and
@Twizzle all the way down to any joe bloggs who joined yesterday.
I'm challenging your position that there is no excuse in him talking in that manner, by asking you to think of a hypothetical. I'm saying there might be, there might not be justification - it depends on the context - which I don't know.
I'm not excusing the behaviour. But I'm also not judging him or her either at this stage. I agree the language is awful. But then again, people are awful.
"Excusing" and "judging" all seem to be conflating different things.
To be crystal clear, I believe Reynolds' actions in the video are unacceptable, regardless of context, and that the behaviour he displays is not normal.
That doesn't mean that there weren't circumstances that led him to act that way, or that the woman involved is either innocent or guilty, or that it does or doesn't extrapolate out to his current DV case.
It actually sounds like you agree with me, for the most part.