Don't know how you can break a relationship off slowly, like you are doing atm.
Just a bad situation imo. You need to cut and run asap. Just get it over with. Otherwise, emotions could get the better of you and you may do something you both regret later.
A clean break is a good break.
I've done it once before, but in that case we got along wonderfully and were very much in love. It was just unavoidable because her visa was ending and our options were:
- Get married
- Pay $4000 for a spousal visa
- Break up
We opted to spend the time we could together and then split.
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This time around has been less fun. We've never been perfect together and probably would have broken up earlier in normal circumstances. Her being alone here has made me feel obliged to stick by her (which isn't the chore I sometimes make it sound).
Either way, it's all done in roughly 48 hours.