Superthread LIV - Honouring the A-League

[Misanthrope]

How's this for weird.

- Break up with American girl back in 2011 as I'm leaving Korea. We part fairly amicably (i.e. with lots of goodbye sex).
- Stay in touch for several months via text before she (rightfully) cuts it off so we can heal.
- She finds Twitter account where I'd been a little graphic in my description of our relationship and some one night stands I'd had when we weren't together.
- I delete Twitter account. She does not speak to me.
- She announces she is in Oz and wants to hang out. I agree to hang out. Back out because I'm a pussy.
- She defriends me (rightfully). We stop talking.
- A year on she re-adds me to ask me to remove any mention of her from my website. Given she's never mentioned in anything more than a passing sense, I say yes but refuse to take down photos of us together at events (they're the only ones I have of me at said events). She defriends me again.
- Refriends me six months later. I foolishly drunk flirt with her. She defriends me again./
- One year on (about a month ago) I send her a friend request. She adds me. 31 minutes later (before I'd noticed) she defriends me again.

Bitches be cray.

Pity too. She was by far the best shag I ever had.

 

[Alba]

why do you keep accepting her friend request lol

 

[Misanthrope]

why do you keep accepting her friend request lol

I'm weird in that I want to be friends with all of my exes. I mean, they mattered at some point.

Hell, I'm friends on FB with every girl I've ever slept with who I knew the name of.

 

[Dragon2010]

Yeah Mis, I've denied the same person3 times today and they keep re-adding me! Decline, decline them!

 

[BunniesMan]

I'm just going to put it out there. I have a whole lot of disrespect for people who cheat on their spouses, but for the most part, I don't fault those they cheat with.

It's one thing if a guy (or girl) is dogging the steps of a taken person trying to catch apples from the drunk tree. Another thing entirely if you're out one night and a pretty girl throws herself at you. And damn sure if I met a girl I thought I had a future with, I'd pursue it as hard as I could.

I just wouldn't let anything physical happen until she was unattached. Not a great starting off point to be 'the other guy', and how the hell do you ever completely trust somebody who couldn't do the right thing by somebody they allegedly cared about?

The onus of doing the right thing is on the people involved in the relationship.

Further to that, three of my relationships in life (one of them a wonderfully supportive two year relationship) started with me meeting the person while they were in a relationship. I never once felt bad for the guy who lost the girl. If he was doing his job, she wouldn't be up late talking to me.

I'd think more of a person if they did the mature thing and broke it off before they did something stupid (I mean, if sleeping with me isn't stupid, what is?) - but sometimes it's hard as hell to break up with somebody. Meeting somebody else who stirs butterflies in your stomach or makes you feel alive is sometimes the kick in the pants a person needs.

Mis, this is a whole lot of sensible talk. I agree with almost every word.

 

[Misanthrope]

 

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[Alba]

I'm weird in that I want to be friends with all of my exes. I mean, they mattered at some point.

Hell, I'm friends on FB with every girl I've ever slept with who I knew the name of.

but she's obviously batshit!

 

[Misanthrope]

but she's obviously batshit!

Totes. But....

 

[Alba]

hahaha ... goddamn facebook..

 

[BDR]

Facebook is a pain in the arse. I have an account, delete it, reinstate, delete it endlessly.

Presently without one.

 

[Misanthrope]

Facebook is a pain in the arse. I have an account, delete it, reinstate, delete it endlessly.

Presently without one.

Living abroad, it's kind of a necessary evil. That said, I think I Skyped home more often when my family didn't have it.

I also use it for my business. A lot of my website hits come directly or indirectly care of my Facebook page.

 

[Alba]

Mis, do you have Viber? I have only just discovered this. It could have saved me a lot of money if someone told me about it earlier!

 

[Misanthrope]

Mis, do you have Viber? I have only just discovered this. It could have saved me a lot of money if someone told me about it earlier!

I don't have Viber, but I use WhatsApp and WeChat (WeiShin in China) to keep in touch with folks back home.

 

[Apey]

I got pretty close to this girl from Uni last year that had a boyfriend. We spent hours some days talking on Facebook and she often said she was only on to talk to me and then we started hanging out more often in person etc. I wasn't particularly interested in anything more than friendship but she was fun to talk to. I got the impression the friend line was starting to get pretty blurred for her.

Eventually, she removed her Facebook account, saying it was because of Uni and that we should still keep in touch etc, but I suspect it was because it was the main way her and I communicated. I'm pretty convinced it was because she'd had a change of heart and wanted to stick solid with the boyfriend. A few months later I notice she has Facebook back but she defriended me and she's engaged to her boyfriend :lol:

Funny looking back now but wasn't particularly funny at the time. Bit of a bitch move really. Lost a friend for no good reason.

 

[Alba]

hmmmm been watching the 'Perfect Partners' clips on ninemsn. Brenton Lawrence looks like he could be related to the Hemsworths *love* hottayyyy

 

[Dani]

Do I have to go to work?

 

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

Still feel really crook. Sad face...

 

[Drew-Sta]

Morning. Tired, and failed at studying last night...

 

[butchmcdick]

Day off today

Missus at work and son at daycare

Win