Ask LU - The relationship advice thread II

[Drew-Sta]

No, we have a pretty good relationship.

Shes older with 2 kids while i have none and her ex is a high ranking policeman.

Apart from all that we get along pretty good.

Im pretty shattered by the whole thing.

So she has a track record of swinging, and just went to a sex den without telling you...

Pretty critical breach of trust. I might have high standards, but I think its close to a deal breaker.

Is that type of lifestyle your thing? Because it sounds like it is hers.

 

[BDR]

Join in lad

 

[deemac77]

Not my style hey, she told me shes faithful and all which i believe.
We are with each other more often than not.

But this has just fkd with me aye...

Like we have such a cool relationship really, and then when i confronted her via text yesterday about it, she like, you dont own me, if you wanna be the Alpha male then man up and pay my bills...

Im like, yeah right. I think its coming to an end :|

 

[Cliffhanger]

She sounds batshit insane.

 

[BDR]

lol "man up"

She sounds like an entitled moron, get out while you can

 

[dogslife]

At least wait and see what new tricks she picked up first

 

[Dragon2010]

She sounds like she's missing a few nuts & bolts in her head.

 

[Drew-Sta]

I think its coming to an end :|

I think it would be wise to heed that last sentence and move along.

Sucks and all, don't get me wrong, but it sounds like its going to happen again so unless you want to join the lifestyle, best to exit the relationship and prevent it from becoming an issue.

 

[sensesmaybenumbed]

She sounds batshit insane.

Yeah, this a bit. Starting to demand you pay her bills after a disagreement is just too much weird.

Do

Not

Put

Your

Dick

In

Crazy.

 

[Dragon2010]

Not my style hey, she told me shes faithful and all which i believe.
We are with each other more often than not.

But this has just fkd with me aye...

Like we have such a cool relationship really, and then when i confronted her via text yesterday about it, she like, you dont own me, if you wanna be the Alpha male then man up and pay my bills...

Im like, yeah right. I think its coming to an end :|

Relationships aren't about owning people. It's about mutual respect, trust and honesty to another.

RE the bolded comment. That's an utter joke. If my GF said that to me I'd show her the door before she could even say bye.

Bugger that, save yourself and kick her ass to the kerb. The ex-husband obviously dumped her ass for a reason.

 

[Eelementary]

Not my style hey, she told me shes faithful and all which i believe.
We are with each other more often than not.

But this has just fkd with me aye...

Like we have such a cool relationship really, and then when i confronted her via text yesterday about it, she like, you dont own me, if you wanna be the Alpha male then man up and pay my bills...

Im like, yeah right. I think its coming to an end :|

Usually, when someone gets that defensive, they have something to hide. Perhaps she did more at that sex den than just sleep on a couch...Maybe she did nothing, but that sort of uber-defensive retaliation is usually indicative of something wrong...

 

[deemac77]

Usually, when someone gets that defensive, they have something to hide. Perhaps she did more at that sex den than just sleep on a couch...Maybe she did nothing, but that sort of uber-defensive retaliation is usually indicative of something wrong...

Absolutely, she was so defensive it actually made me nearly apolagise, then i thought, why sould i apolagise, i was the one home in bed while shes out at the dominatrix bullshit...

I guess you cant make a hoe a housewife...

 

[Gas Panic!]

Man up and pay the bills? I say man up and tell her to get farked.

 

[Eelementary]

Absolutely, she was so defensive it actually made me nearly apolagise, then i thought, why sould i apolagise, i was the one home in bed while shes out at the dominatrix bullshit...

I guess you cant make a hoe a housewife...

I won't cast any aspersions on her character as I do not know her (nor do I know you). But what I can say is that usually people tend to get very defensive and combative when they are feeling guilty and are being confronted about it, so there is a chance she did something she now regrets.

The only thing you can do is talk to her - if your relationship is worth saving, try and talk to her and go from there.

But if her reaction is to try and make you apologise or feel guilty, I would advise that that is a red flag and it might be best for you to get out - I'm sure you don't need all the needless drama.

At the end of the day, though, all we can do is offer friendly advice from our points of view - ultimately, you need to make the decision on what to do.

 

[Dani]

Sounds like she's after a paycheck more than love...

 

[sensesmaybenumbed]

Sounds like she's after a paycheck more than love...

Dani raises another fine point.

 

[Fire]

Give her a one-eyed screaming pelican.

 

[Drew-Sta]

Give her a one-eyed screaming pelican.

:lol:

 

[Dragon2010]

Sounds like she's after a paycheck more than love...

She be a gold digger. :crazy:

 

[Rebel]

Been with fiancé for nearly 3 years now, currently going through a very bad rough patch. Don't think there is a light at the end of the tunnel...

Anyone have a magic pill that makes relationships nice and easy?