Ask LU - The Relationship Advice Thread III

[Drew-Sta]

They got furballs?

 

[sensesmaybenumbed]

Of different colours. This only assisted each cat in becoming aware of the other cats in the sack.

 

[Drew-Sta]

No doubt the white cat fur oppresses the brown tabby's and black moggy, while they all poke fun of the orange furballs.

 

[Alba]

It's definitely called a honey pot.

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Made out with a super cute, geeky German at the party bus event on Sunday night. Pity she's recently divorced, but man could she kiss. Might be worth putting some effort in to occupy a little of her newly acquired free time.

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Why is it a shame she is recently divorced?

 

[phantom eel]

I think the key word was recently, ie might be just rebounding, rather than after something more regular?

 

[Alba]

If she has recently divorced, she has more than likely been separated for more than a year.

 

[Beeker]

Ze Germans are an efficient people!

And to answer sensesmaybenumbed... Misanthrope picked his forum name appropriately... at the time... I've watched him really come into his own since first shipping out to South Korea.

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

Ze Germans are an efficient people!

And to answer sensesmaybenumbed... Misanthrope picked his forum name appropriately... at the time... I've watched him really come into his own since first shipping out to South Korea.

And everyone elses....

 

[Misanthrope]

Why is it a shame she is recently divorced?

I think the key word was recently, ie might be just rebounding, rather than after something more regular?

What phantom eel said. She's all jacked up over it.

 

[Cliffhanger]

So just tonight found out he lied about he's age. He's really 21 not 23. He said it was because he didn't think I'd give him a chance otherwise. The fact he lied bugs me a lot, but on the other had I liove him, he treats me right, and is sweet etc,

Anyway I don't know what to do or think. I'm hurt he's been lying to me for two months

 

[soc123_au]

Did he come clean or you caught him out? If he came clean I would let it slide.

 

[Cliffhanger]

I noticed that he didn't like me looking closely at his licence and insisted he show it to me.

 

[Apey]

The fact he lied bugs me a lot, but on the other had I live him, he trays me right, and is sweet etc,

What language is this?

 

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

Pretty sure it is the Microsoft Word setting "English (Moffo)".

 

[Cliffhanger]

Sorry I'm a bit frustrated right now

 

[Cliffhanger]

I think as much as I keep insisting it's about the lie not his age I think it is the latter. I can't see a future with him anymore I feel like he's going to change so much and want something entirely different in a year or so. I feel guilty thinking it.

 

[soc123_au]

I imagine it started as an innocent lie to help get into your pants. The problem with little lies in the beginning are when feelings develop. It is hard to back out of the lie. It sounds like you are pretty smitten with each other, it would be a shame to end it over something that was a rookie error from a young player.

 

[Cliffhanger]

I think more than anything I'm scared that he's going to Do a complete 360 and not want to be with me anymore because his wants will totally change when he gets older.

 

[soc123_au]

You can't worry about shit like that. Some guys know what they want at 20, others still aren't ready at 40. Any relationship at any age is risk vs reward. The risk is a broken heart & the reward is potentially finding the love of your life.

 

[phantom eel]

Fair dinkum. If he lied about something like age because he didn't think you'd even give him a go, but has treated you well otherwise and it's felt good to you then what is the big deal? It just shows he was into you, and maybe initially he felt you were a bit intimidating/set in your ways and didn't know how to get past it?

Look for the reason for the lie, and then realise that it's all ok. Why worry about age-related generalisations about what might happen in a year or two - that was probably exactly what someone who sounds like a decent guy was trying to avoid through his initial age-related lie?

Don't over think it and be the one that wrecks it all now, when you say that it's all been very good and he's clearly into you.