Ask LU - The Relationship Advice Thread III

[Cliffhanger]

I didn't like that he spoiled me rotten. He made feel worthy and valued that's what I liked.

 

[Dani]

I have a date with a man that has 3 kids. Scared.

 

[muzby]

why? is he bringing them along?

see him as the person he is, not as a father of 3..

if things progress, then yes, the kids do add another layer of complexity, but don't let it scare you..

 

[Dani]

More scared of the date than the kids.

 

[muzby]

why?

 

[Dani]

Painfully shy.

 

[DB]

That just means he's had the secks at least three times Dani, unless they are triplets

 

[Dani]

Three whole times?

Lucky merkin.

 

[DB]

It's all about perspective

 

[Apey]

Just make sure he's not trying to offload his children onto you Dani.

 

[Helmet Man]

I have a date with a man that has 3 kids. Scared.

He will have a 4th child by the end of the date.

 

[Drew-Sta]

Just make sure he's not trying to offload his children onto you Dani.

Yeah. That's what gypsies are for :sarcasm:

 

[bartman]

Last night he told me he's going to Thailand at the end of the week. I pretended it didn't bother me, because there's no point in calling him up on breaking his promises etc. He knew How i felt about him holidaying with his ex and decided to go anyway. If I get upset about it we'll both Just end up in shit moods, it won't change anything else.

Whatever, I'll just hold no hope of him coming back ten days later and still wanting to be with me. Pretty sure he's been slowly falling out of love with me for a few weeks anyway.

So the problem is that he had plans to go to Thailand, you didn't want him to go, but he's decided that he's going through with the trip anyway?

Why the paranoia about the ex anyway? There's usually reasons why someone is an ex, and time spent together (like a holiday) serves to remind people why they are exes (rather than result in rekindled attempts). In another post you've written that he's been spending lots of time with you before he leaves... where's the problem again? From what you've typed, I wouldn't say it's your intelligence that's being insulted....

 

[muzby]

Painfully shy.

whoops sorry missed your reply..

who asked out who?

cause if you asked him, you aren't shy.. Even if you think you are..

and if he asked you, it means that he's interested.. So don't hold back..

easiest way I've found to get over shyness is to get into character.. Imagine the person you want to be, and pretend they are a character in a film or play..

then just act them out..

sounds silly, but it's the easiest way to drop the inhibitions.. And before you know it, you've unlocked that side of you..


just don't imagine yourself as Hannibal Lecter..

or maybe only if things get awkward..

 

[Dani]

It's a setup. He's my a friend of my friends fiance... If that makes sense.

Apparently he's shy too. But my friend has been talking me up a little too much i think.

I trust her judgement. She knows what I've been through and wouldn't set me up with a douchebag.

 

[Drew-Sta]

Really proud of you Dani! Very excited for you. Will pray the date goes well

 

[muzby]

It's a setup. He's my a friend of my friends fiance... If that makes sense.

Apparently he's shy too. But my friend has been talking me up a little too much i think.

I trust her judgement. She knows what I've been through and wouldn't set me up with a douchebag.

nice one - me and my now wife were a 'set up'.. I worked with her cousin, and she thought we'd get along.. And we did..

but having that common link will make things easier - if you are both a bit shy to talk at any point, you can just start talking about your mutual friends

 

[butchmcdick]

I didn't like that he spoiled me rotten. He made feel worthy and valued that's what I liked.

By coincidence I am in Thailand at the moment

If he is going to cheat on you he doesn't have to be in Thailand to do it

I know his ex will be with him but all you can do is trust that his respect for you is such that he won't cross any lines

If he does he isn't the guy u think he is

As an aside there is a 10 pm to 5am curfew on here at the moment since the military staged a coup last week so pissing it up all night isn't an option

Also every motel has free kickarse wifi so you can Skype daily if you need to. Thailand is three hours behind oz so it's pretty easy to arrange times. Telstra global roaming is like 75 cents a text. Optus is 50cents a text from Thailand

Good luck cliff

 

[butchmcdick]

It's a setup. He's my a friend of my friends fiance... If that makes sense.

Apparently he's shy too. But my friend has been talking me up a little too much i think.

I trust her judgement. She knows what I've been through and wouldn't set me up with a douchebag.

Go get em tiger

Guard your carnal treasure

 

[Dani]

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