Ask LU - The Relationship Advice Thread III

[Dani]

Not any more

 

[Bulldog Force]

But at the same time he's really supportive in other ways. Like with me getting my license etc. It just annoyed me because I've never wished his body was another way.

It comes across as a form of emotional blackmail for him to be criticising the way you look, and especially when you're in great shape.

If he doesn't like the shape you're in, then he should probably f**k off and find himself a shape he does like.

See Cliffy, I'm not the only one who think you're a perfect specimen ;-)

 

[Helmet Man]

Thank your lucky stars and bang her as much as possible

This.

Living the dream tbh. Just keep doing what you are doing.

Enjoy it while you can, Helmet. Those arrangements never last.

So you guys are saying i shouldn't even mention anything to her or even question her about her feelings? Just keep going how it is until somehow it f**ks up?

 

[butchmcdick]

f**k your emotions away

If she brings it up fine

If not

 

[timka4]

So you guys are saying i shouldn't even mention anything to her or even question her about her feelings? Just keep going how it is until somehow it f**ks up?

If you dont want it to go further, say nothing. If you do, say something. The same will go regarding her aswell. Only way itll f**k up if one of yous do develope more than f**k buddy feelings and doesnt say anything and the other person finds someone else cause they didnt think it'd matter

 

[Helmet Man]

If you dont want it to go further, say nothing. If you do, say something. The same will go regarding her aswell. Only way itll f**k up if one of yous do develope more than f**k buddy feelings and doesnt say anything and the other person finds someone else cause they didnt think it'd matter

i think it will eventually come to the latter, especially for me.

 

[Eelementary]

He only moved to Australia four years ago.

So....?

So she likes FOBs.

 

[sportive cupid]

you may tell yourself that but at the end of the day you wont

it doesn't work that way

and he does sound a bit vain tbh

He sounds more like a normal 21year old guy to me.

Does he have pics of himself on his Facebook page btw?

 

[Frederick]

I live to give, but I just got over my monthly which means he just enjoyed five days of receiving something that rhymes with dead so I think it's only fair.

Five days of bread? Dean would be sooooo jealous.

 

[dogslife]

So she likes FOBs.

She never told me if he was mail order or not

 

[butchmcdick]

Five days of bread? Dean would be sooooo jealous.

I went out with a gluten intolerant chick once

 

[dogslife]

Bread would cause her throat to close over and she'd gag right?

 

[Twizzle]

might shut her up

 

[butchmcdick]

Bread would cause her throat to close over and she'd gag right?

She wouldn't even take a bite of any bread just incase

 

[Cliffhanger]

Last night he told me he's going to Thailand at the end of the week. I pretended it didn't bother me, because there's no point in calling him up on breaking his promises etc. He knew How i felt about him holidaying with his ex and decided to go anyway. If I get upset about it we'll both Just end up in shit moods, it won't change anything else.

Whatever, I'll just hold no hope of him coming back ten days later and still wanting to be with me. Pretty sure he's been slowly falling out of love with me for a few weeks anyway.

 

[Skinner]

Last night he told me he's going to Thailand at the end of the week. I pretended it didn't bother me, because there's no point in calling him up on breaking his promises etc. He knew How i felt about him holidaying with his ex and decided to go anyway. If I get upset about it we'll both Just end up in shit moods, it won't change anything else.

Whatever, I'll just hold no hope of him coming back ten days later and still wanting to be with me. Pretty sure he's been slowly falling out of love with me for a few weeks anyway.

Shit happens girl. Move on.

 

[Cliffhanger]

I can't move on unless he comes back and says it's over he leave until Friday so it will be two weeks before i know for sure.

I still want it to work and even though I'm annoyed at what he did I still love him and want to be with him But if he doesn't want to be with me then there's nothing i can do and i will just never have sex or be in a relationship again. f**k emotional risks I'll be a coward I don't care, I'm not putting myself in a position where i can feel this way again.

 

[Eelementary]

I can't move on unless he comes back and says it's over he leave until Friday so it will be two weeks before i know for sure.

I still want it to work and even though I'm annoyed at what he did I still love him and want to be with him But if he doesn't want to be with me then there's nothing i can do and i will just never have sex or be in a relationship again. f**k emotional risks I'll be a coward I don't care, I'm not putting myself in a position where i can feel this way again.

Would you stop climbing if you fell off a cliff and shattered several bones?

Would you stop supporting the Chooks (I think you're a Chooks fan?) if they won a million spoons in a row and were threatened with being kicked out of the comp?

Would you stop having friends if one of them turned out to be a snake?

I understand why you feel the way you do, but rationally, you cannot choose to take that path. Taking risks is what makes life worthwhile - otherwise you're just living a shell of a life.

And they don't even have to be dangerous risks - but taking a chance on love is a gamble well worth the effort and possible heartbreak.

Life is too short and stressful to be scared of the negative impacts on the potentially positive decisions we make.

 

[Cliffhanger]

Physical pain i can take. I'll take a billion physical risks over an emotional risk.

The worst thing is he knows he's let me down so he's trying to compensate me by spending lots of time with me before he leaves. He thinks he's being nice but really it's just an insult to my intelligence.

 

[Twizzle]

I remember at the start of this relationship you said you didn't know if you liked him or not and until he spoiled you rotten you weren't too interested. Seems like he has grown on you but as to whether its love or not only you will know.

Not every relationship is permanent and if it doesn't work, at least you gave it a go and you'll be a better person for it and better prepared for what happens next. Sometimes you just have to let these things play themselves out.