Ask LU - The relationship advice thread

[Karl]

I don't think you can do fwb with a close friend, has to be a fringe friend, imo. Gets too awkward if one of you decides to shag elsewhere or gets into a relationship with someone else.
I've really got my horn on for a guy at work, but I know no good can come from that. Fml.

I disagree re the fwb. If you're good mates you know that there isn't a spark - you've already hit the friend zone, so less chance of romantic feelings developing. Plus you have trust that the other person will keep it discreet. The whole idea of fwb is that you WILL shag other people. If that's an issue you can't be fwb in the first place. If you're good friends, you can laugh and talk about the other person sex too, and ask their opinion etc, because you're friends. A fringe friend is too risky for fwb unless there is a very clear understanding on the rules and you're sure you won't end up falling for them.

On the other hand - the rule about not getting your pussy where your pays at, or in your case, the girl equivalent, whatever that is - that is a good rule to live by. I have seen that go pear shaped 6 ways from Sunday and it never, ever, ends well. The thing about this rule - it's broken more than the Commandment about Coveting and it's so much damn fun while you're doing it that often the consequences can be an acceptable price of doing business. Workplaces are fluid environments these days and with the hours we all have to work to stay afloat in these uncertain times, the taboo associated with this prohibition is getting weaker. It's also just cheaper to shag someone at work.

 

[Karl]

no female engineers either

where are all the wimins at

They are PA's in professional services and marketing firms in the CBD, or maybe designers and in PR and HR. They commute for hours every day in order to be conveniently located for your hunting pleasure.

When I went to Uni I left the Gold Coast and headed to the hallowed halls of UQ and thought God obviously only put Beauty and Brains in a limited number of packages because the Hotness Ratio dropped dramatically when you entered campus. I wondered where all the hot ones went. I mean, there were still a few around, but they either suddenly decided that grooming was for bimbo's or they were smart enough to see right through me and my poorly camouflaged intentions. This is when I became a Jedi Master in the Strategic Application of Alcohol and developed my "Window Of Opportunity" Theory, together with the associated supporting documentation, timelines, decision trees, processes and methodologies. Then I graduated and ended up in a Tall Tower in the Big City and Voila'! Hotness Ratio Restored. THIS is where they had been hiding.

Other good places to look, apparently, are in the fitness and personal training colleges, TAFE courses for Beauty and Hair and the Day Spa and Salon industry.

 

[StormChaser]

In the noble words of Steel Panther
"Two in the pink
and one in the stink
That's called The Shocker"

\\m/

Ohh helll noooo! It's an exit not an entry! I think that men who actually enjoy this are closet ghey's!

 

[Twizzle]

its an orifice

 

[Karl]

Closet gays my arse!

Wait, I mean - no, hang on...

 

[Hallatia]

Ohh helll noooo! It's an exit not an entry! I think that men who actually enjoy this are closet ghey's!

completely agree

 

[Dani]

Werd. It's an out hole only.

 

[WYD]

Ohh helll noooo! It's an exit not an entry! I think that men who actually enjoy this are closet ghey's!

It's the neighbor to the vagina.

Wouldn't it be rude to never drop in and say hi?

I was raised with manners.

 

[StormChaser]

I disagree re the fwb. If you're good mates you know that there isn't a spark - you've already hit the friend zone, so less chance of romantic feelings developing. Plus you have trust that the other person will keep it discreet. The whole idea of fwb is that you WILL shag other people. If that's an issue you can't be fwb in the first place. If you're good friends, you can laugh and talk about the other person sex too, and ask their opinion etc, because you're friends. A fringe friend is too risky for fwb unless there is a very clear understanding on the rules and you're sure you won't end up falling for them.

On the other hand - the rule about not getting your pussy where your pays at, or in your case, the girl equivalent, whatever that is - that is a good rule to live by. I have seen that go pear shaped 6 ways from Sunday and it never, ever, ends well. The thing about this rule - it's broken more than the Commandment about Coveting and it's so much damn fun while you're doing it that often the consequences can be an acceptable price of doing business. Workplaces are fluid environments these days and with the hours we all have to work to stay afloat in these uncertain times, the taboo associated with this prohibition is getting weaker. It's also just cheaper to shag someone at work.

My experience is that it changes the dynamics of the friendship, it just makes it weird and I value the true male friends that I have. Sex complicates things, it just does.
As for work, ain't going there. Seen that go to shit a few times with others and it makes it weird/awkward for everyone.

 

[HowHigh]

I remember when a guy and chick hooked up at a work xmas party...the guy never came to work again
Chick must have felt pretty bad!

 

[simmo1]

no female engineers either

where are all the wimins at

Seems to be 2/3 female at my job (lab work). Scarcely a looker though.

 

[StormChaser]

It's the neighbor to the vagina.

Wouldn't it be rude to never drop in and say hi?

I was raised with manners.

:lol: I have no words.

 

[dogslife]

Every hole's a goal...

 

[StormChaser]

Gayer than rollerskates.

 

[Twizzle]

whats wrong with roller skates ?

 

[Springs]

Ohh helll noooo! It's an exit not an entry! I think that men who actually enjoy this are closet ghey's!

I really don't see how a man enjoying the female body is homosexual...

 

[dogslife]

I'm with Twiz, I be pimpin in my skates

 

[Hallatia]

I really don't see how a man enjoying the female body is homosexual...

last time I checked, enjoying the female body is about enjoying lady parts and boobies. Doing a homosexual act on a female, is not enjoying the female body, it is just gay

 

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

It is the ultimate method for birth control...

 

[Bazal]

last time I checked, enjoying the female body is about enjoying lady parts and boobies. Doing a homosexual act on a female, is not enjoying the female body, it is just gay

What the hell? How exactly is it homosexual? That's borderline bigot talk tbh, certainly close minded. It's a sexual act with a woman, ergo not at all homosexual. FTR I am not into the idea at all...but whatever floats folks boats, man. I know a chick who digs it...closet ghey for sure, right :sarcasm: