"I will never forget..."

[Eelementary]

That's awful, 9701. My thoughts are with you.

I'll never forget my dad's passing. I owe him so much - he introduced me to so much of what makes me who I am, including the Eels, which are a crazy passion of mine.

Worst part is (and I know it's a cliche, but it's true) that I miss him and I never got to say goodbye.

 

[Timmah]

Worst part is (and I know it's a cliche, but it's true) that I miss him and I never got to say goodbye.

It's exruciating.

 

[Eelementary]

It's exruciating.

It is. It was a freak accident, so one moment he's fine, the next he's passed out, then he's in a medically-induced coma in hospital and then he's gone...It was a whirlwind three days that happened almost three years ago, and I am not ashamed to admit I still am having trouble dealing with it.

A lot of people have told me that because I'm an adult, that it's easy to deal with. While it's probably true that a child losing a parent is probably more impactful, I defy anyone who thinks it's an easy process to go through just because you're an adult with your own life. It's a harrowing and emotionally draining experience.

 

[Alba]

It is. It was a freak accident, so one moment he's fine, the next he's passed out, then he's in a medically-induced coma in hospital and then he's gone...It was a whirlwind three days that happened almost three years ago, and I am not ashamed to admit I still am having trouble dealing with it.

A lot of people have told me that because I'm an adult, that it's easy to deal with. While it's probably true that a child losing a parent is probably more impactful, I defy anyone who thinks it's an easy process to go through just because you're an adult with your own life. It's a harrowing and emotionally draining experience.

*hugs* I am still having trouble dealing with my Grandfather passing, and that was over 10yrs ago, and expected

 

[Dragon2010]

Okay, a few things I will never forget:

- Day my parents got divorced (That day still haunts me for reasons I won't explain).
- First day of high-school.
- My dad's wedding (This was a weird one, experiencing your own parents wedding is...awkward).
- Day I got my car.
- First accident (And the moron who hit me).
- Hitting a tree while skiing (Yay me).

and some other things.

 

[thorson1987]

That sucks 9701.

For me

- dad telling us he and mum were getting divorced when I was 5
- next door neighbour committing suicide when I was 8. (Single father with a 6 year old daughter. He was found in his car in the garage with a hose from the exhaust into the cab. Pretty sure his missus had died a few years earlier)
- brother attempting suicide on my 13th birthday. OD'd on painkillers. I found him in the gutter outside our house when I went out for a skate.
- all 3 births of my children
- wedding day

 

[thorson1987]

Okay, a few things I will never forget:

- Day my parents got divorced (That day still haunts me for reasons I won't explain).
- First day of high-school.
- My dad's wedding (This was a weird one, experiencing your own parents wedding is...awkward).
- Day I got my car.
- First accident (And the moron who hit me).
- Hitting a tree while skiing (Yay me).

and some other things.

I was there for both weddings when parents got remarried. Was a groomsmen for my mums wedding.

 

[Dani]

- Having to tell my mum that I was in hospital after someone she considered to be a son had put me there.
- The salary cap rorting. I'd had the worst day at work, look at my phone at 5pm to see like 17 mussed calls
- Reading at my grandpas funeral
- Missing the last train back to Sydney after watching Knughts vs. Roosters at EAS

 

[Jobdog]

So long ago (i was 16).

I remember it every day of my life since and probably will untill the day I die.

The sight of opening a garage door and seeing my older brother's lifeless body hanging from a rope after he went missing for 3 days.

Uhm, wow.

Words don't describe mate

 

[Jobdog]

In order:

Knights in 1997. Grand Final, after party
Knights prelim in 2000.
Knights GF win 2001.
Best mate moving from Newy to Townsville in 2002 (I think) - never really had as much of a best mate since
First break-up
Sister's wedding (if only because I was still a mess and probably didn't enjoy it for her as much as I should have)

 

[soc123_au]

A few good & a few not so good.

The first time I kissed my wife & from that moment knowing she was the one.

Birth of all the kids. Especially my Daughter.

Panthers in 91 & 03

First time being selected for the Catafalque Party on Anzac Day & then standing there for 3 hours with an SLR digging into my toe & then tears streaming down my cheeks when they played the last post.

First wank & wondering what the hell was happening when I got to "the end"

Bad

Going outside to my pride and joy (XY GT Falcon) had been stolen.

First time I saw a dead body.

The realisation I would never walk again & would be spending the rest of my life in a wheelchair.

 

[Joker's Wild]

That's awful, 9701. My thoughts are with you.

I'll never forget my dad's passing. I owe him so much - he introduced me to so much of what makes me who I am, including the Eels, which are a crazy passion of mine.

Worst part is (and I know it's a cliche, but it's true) that I miss him and I never got to say goodbye.

While it was one of the most painful times in my life, I do feel lucky to have been able to say good bye to my old man before he passed. He was in IC hooked up to a tonne of machines at the time and the whole family was there. That day was the moment shit got real for me and made me look at the stupid teenage shit I used to do and that it was time to grow the f**k up.

The day my kids were born is another day I wont forget and signaled the start of a new chapter in my life, obvs for very different reasons. Looking at the 2 squishy, wrinkly little humans and feeling so much love for them was over powering. Until then I never really knew just how important being a father was to me and Im thankful for everything my dad had taught me, and sill teaches me tbh, about loving and looking after your kids no matter what

 

[thorson1987]

I never got to say bye to any of my grand parents.

Was too young for the ones on my dads side.

On mums side I was 11 when pop died. Was sitting in the lounge room watching cartoons and mum came in and told me.

The worst though was my nan. She was really sick so mum moved up to Maryborough to look after her. Knew she didn't have much time left so was planning to visit so she could meet my son (was only 8 months old at the time.)

The week before we were going to head up there I was sitting in the smoking area at work and my step dad called me to tell me she passed away overnight. I was a mess the rest of the day at work.

 

[Surely]

I really empathize with those who have lost loved ones it just really imprints you, lost my mother in 07 when my stepfather murdered her, not ashamed to admit I still cry myself to sleep sometimes.

A month later my little princess was born, can talk like her grandmother sometimes I almost believe in reincarnation.

 

[Apey]

I have nothing to add but other depressing (less so than 9701s, Surelys etc.) stories/days at the moment :lol:

- Dad telling us he was leaving Mum (~9 years old)
- Dad telling me Mum's youngest brother had killed himself (~12 years old)
- Seeing my grandfather after he died. I wasn't close to him or anything but he looked like he had died of shock or something, so the sight of him will probably be with me for a while (~13 years old)
- Dog of 18.5 years dying. Just the whole day really. In particular Mum bawling her eyes out while holding her. (Australia Day this year)

I'll try to think of some positive ones, heh.

 

[God-King Dean]

 

[umina panther]

A few bad ones but one nice one is when my sister's boyfriend asked me if he could marry her. I let my tough big bro act down and hugged him.

 

[thorson1987]

A few bad ones but one nice one is when my sister's boyfriend asked me if he could marry her. I let my tough big bro act down and hugged him.

I was more nervous asking the father in law if I could marry the missus then I was on the wedding day.

Walked over to his house whilst all the girls were out, sat down and asked him.

He just looked at me then asked if I wanted a beer.

 

[Joker's Wild]

I was more nervous asking the father in law if I could marry the missus then I was on the wedding day.

Walked over to his house whilst all the girls were out, sat down and asked him.

He just looked at me then asked if I wanted a beer.

Ha ha ha pretty much how mine went too

 

[Eelementary]

While it was one of the most painful times in my life, I do feel lucky to have been able to say good bye to my old man before he passed. He was in IC hooked up to a tonne of machines at the time and the whole family was there. That day was the moment shit got real for me and made me look at the stupid teenage shit I used to do and that it was time to grow the f**k up.

The day my kids were born is another day I wont forget and signaled the start of a new chapter in my life, obvs for very different reasons. Looking at the 2 squishy, wrinkly little humans and feeling so much love for them was over powering. Until then I never really knew just how important being a father was to me and Im thankful for everything my dad had taught me, and sill teaches me tbh, about loving and looking after your kids no matter what

Sucks, man.

I was in shock to see my dad hooked up to these machines being kept artificially alive, but I always thought he'd be ok. Denial is a destructive emotion, because it masked for me the reality that he wasn't going to be ok. And so when it did happen, it felt even worse.