nick87
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I agree and so with that being said as a society we should be able to talk about how to reduce/avoid this kind of thing (like suggesting to women not to go home from night clubs with strangers AND men why even bother going to night clubs) without that kind of talk getting thrown in the "victim blaming" bin.
The trouble is, and this is unrelated to this case, as billythekid said, and as i said in the previous JDB thread, there is no way for us to know the truth of this.
But with that being said the problem with you are saying there is those talks are very rarely conducted in good faith IMO regarding what can/should be done, and often IMO centre too much around asking women to act and behaviour in a certain way to avoid situations rather than holding men accountable for their actions.
I have a son and i have a daughter. Of course i will do my best to warn my daughter of the pitfalls and dangers that come with her gender. But there is little more i can do than that, and hope and pray she is not a victim some form of abuse (though sadly, at the moment roughly 1/3 women do, and i don't like those odds if I'm being perfectly honest)
So my focus is on my son, and teaching him what is wrong and right, setting an example and a standard and raising him to be the sort of man who not only upholds those standards but holds those around him accountable to them too. In the context of the society, i would say we need to talk more about that and less about what women should or shouldnt be doing.