My attempt at a serious thread

[Dani]

Tbh, i've just about reached the stage where i do actually feel a lot of hate towards him. It's seems that i am the punching bag (not literally, trust me) for him and i can't deal with it for too much longer. But i still want him to get help, cause as you said, he is still my father and if it's not bi-polar then it's something else that needs treatment.

 

[Raider_69]

definitely speak to your GP
hell if its the same as your fathers he might even be able to do a once over on his files and find something that could give a clue, if not con (and i use that term in the most respectful way) him into a check up where the doc can give him a once over.

 

[Twizzle]

It's definitely not a drinking problem. His moods change in the blink of an eye and they can go any way. I'm moving out soon-ish so it wont effect me for too much longer but im worried about my sister.

is he on medication and has he got help got it ?

it can be controlled

 

[Dani]

No he's not on medication, that's my issue. Telling him he needs help will more than likely cause world war 3.

 

[Phillips]

He doesn't sleep, drinks a lot, his mood swings are horrible, he takes everything the wrong way and recently he's been doing wreckless things like drink driving, i pretty much refuse to drive with him since last year when i asked him to turn the radio down cause i had a headache. Well apparently that was the worst thing in the world he cracked it so bad and started driving really fast, tailgating then finally lost it, pulled over (on a free way) and made me get out before speeding off. I expected him to come back. I ended up getting a taxi home, $85 later...
All that over asking for the radio to be turned down...

seems to me he's an asshole

 

[Dani]

I prefer to use the word merkin when describing him.

 

[Timmah]

Something tells me you didn't write merkin when you typed that post.

 

[Dani]

No, i didn't

 

[Eelementary]

He seems really in a bad state mentally. He sounds like he needs help. And I'm stating the obvious here like a fool. Sorry.

I agree with Raider - speak with someone in the fmaily you trust. Consult a GP. Call a help line if need be. The situation demands diplomacy and delicacy.

According to what I have read, it's usually a good point to have the whole family stick together on the issue. If the whole family can prove to him that his state is affecting everyone, it just may be the catalyst he needs to seek help.

 

[Dani]

He gets off on making me cry, i don't want to 'stick together'.

 

[Crazy_Goddess]

Dani by the sounds on it the sooner you move the better it will be for your self esteem

 

[Sanchez]

love em and leave em

 

[Dani]

Nothing is ever good enough for anyone, is it?

 

[Crazy_Goddess]

what do you mean dani?

 

[Dani]

I've been working my arse off and my hours get cut back even more, then i come home to sh*t because i haven't done something right.
I'm just going crazy here.

 

[Crazy_Goddess]

omg thats not good

 

[Dani]

I'll survive, just needed to vent.

 

[Eelementary]

I say that you cannot deal with this on your own. It's an issue that affects everyone, and not just you, Dani. Having you cop the brunt of all the punishment is unfair.

 

[Dani]

You learn to live with it.

 

[Crazy_Goddess]

dani no one has to live like that....i wish i had a spare room for you