Thank you, you get it.
And now you're misinterpreting me... oh well.
Fair point that you feel your mum was to blame for most (but not all) of what you experienced growing up. But that has little to do with Semi's situation, and even less to do with my opinion on Semi, based on personal judgement from info in the public domain.
Sure. And my opinion is that he is a grub, and not everyone has to share that opinion.
But that doesn't mean I have a black and white view of the world, or think that men are the wrong-doers in all allegations of domestic violence etc etc *insert any other assumptions here*
I stand by my comment, and believe the club will be better off without Semi in 2018 and beyond - it's not like he's recaptured his form of two seasons ago anyway.
Mate, when Semi went AWOL last year and 'seemed' to be so undecided about whether or not he wanted to be part of this Parramatta team, I thought, "Well f**k you, just go then". So, in terms of his apparent commitment (or not) to the club, I thought he was a major liability. And may still be. So when you refer to him as a grub, I've got no issue with that per se. But it seemed to me that your referring to him as a grub was based, at least partially, on the supposition that he was guilty of domestic violence. Why else would you mention 'a certain court case'? If I misinterpreted you, oh well. I guess when you have a history of consistent and persistent criticism and character assassination (Jarryd Hayne springs to mind), then you're bound to be misinterpreted from time to time.
In my work I see the impact of domestic violence on children. And it's terrible. I've seen women who are afraid of their own shadows - suffering from complex PTSD as a result of sustained emotional and physical abuse by their manipulating and controlling male partners (who could best be described as 'little Hitlers'). But I also see cases where the wife is the perpetrator of physical violence. Other cases where the wife is the instigator. The agitator. Where the wife has a mental illness. Where the wife has a personality disorder - making her almost impossible to live with on any amicable basis. Where the wife has been unfaithful. Where the wife is an addict or alcoholic or binge-drinker. Where the wife perpetrates extreme emotional abuse on the male until he 'cracks'. And all of these situations can have a severe and lasting effect on the children in the household. Problem is, if the male reacts to any of these situations in a physical way, he is branded a perpetrator of domestic violence. And that doesn't solve anything.
So, if you want to call Semi a grub, go for it. But please be aware that 'domestic violence' - far from being a clear-cut, 'guilty/not-guilty' situation - is one of the most complex and complicated issues facing us today.
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