Ask LU - The relationship advice thread II

[BDR]

Fair few female friends.
Had a massive crush on one of them, got nowhere, not really close anymore...it would be a stretch to say we're still friends.
Dated another for a while, things were.. interesting.. for a while. We're still good friends, somehow.

Don't think I'd go down that path again though. Lesson learned.

There's your problem

 

[Fire]

Someone had to start this again surely. Who would have thought the other thread would hit it's post limit.

So, As we all know FFB is the best place for advice so ask away.

I'll start. Do you people honestly think guys/girls can just be friends or is that a bunch of rubbish due to sexual escalation?

Pussy. Meat. No rubber.

 

[HowHigh]

The majority of my friends have tendency to be unreliable it's not a male/female thing, they cancel plans last minute, they show up late to plans without warning, they try to manipulate me into doing things I don't want to, some of the males think it's appropriate to expect sex in return for favours,

Before people come out and say maybe I am a bad friend, I am not, I would literally throw myself in front of a loaded gun to protect my mates, I am never late, I help them when they need it, I compliment them, I am there for them and yet they still take me for granted and let me down all the time. Half of them didn't even come out for my birthday and when I won money on my b'day I had to buy them drinks!

Sounds like you need better friends lol........but I don't know them so I can't judge anything
And buying them drinks on your birthday? That's a shit go

 

[SuperiorEasts]

The majority of my friends have tendency to be unreliable it's not a male/female thing, they cancel plans last minute, they show up late to plans without warning, they try to manipulate me into doing things I don't want to, some of the males think it's appropriate to expect sex in return for favours,

Before people come out and say maybe I am a bad friend, I am not, I would literally throw myself in front of a loaded gun to protect my mates, I am never late, I help them when they need it, I compliment them, I am there for them and yet they still take me for granted and let me down all the time. Half of them didn't even come out for my birthday and when I won money on my b'day I had to buy them drinks!

:lol:

 

[Cliffhanger]

Sounds like you need better friends lol........but I don't know them so I can't judge anything
And buying them drinks on your birthday? That's a shit go

A lot of them are immature and thoughtless. I have one friend who constantly complains about how i qm too guarded but doesn't realise that it's with good reason seeing as when I am vulnerable no one is there for me.

 

[madunit]

The majority of my friends have tendency to be unreliable it's not a male/female thing, they cancel plans last minute, they show up late to plans without warning, they try to manipulate me into doing things I don't want to, some of the males think it's appropriate to expect sex in return for favours,

Before people come out and say maybe I am a bad friend, I am not, I would literally throw myself in front of a loaded gun to protect my mates, I am never late, I help them when they need it, I compliment them, I am there for them and yet they still take me for granted and let me down all the time. Half of them didn't even come out for my birthday and when I won money on my b'day I had to buy them drinks!

You just have shit friends.

 

[Twizzle]

Ladies and gentleman, history has just been made.

We have just discovered the first thread that Timmah did NOT post in.

I wonder if he'll post in this one

He had 9 posts, just didn't make the list

 

[IanG]

IanG with only 177posts of wisdom? No wonder you bitches can't get your life love sorted.

Well I didn't have much more to add. But I will add this now. Do it while you still can. If anybody tells you "You're only young don't rush things" tell them to "Go and get stuffed!"

I lost my step father late last year at way too young an age and then this morning we've heard about Johnny Mannah. All it's done in my view is reinforce the idea of you never know when you're number's up.

 

[Joker's Wild]

The majority of my friends have tendency to be unreliable it's not a male/female thing, they cancel plans last minute, they show up late to plans without warning, they try to manipulate me into doing things I don't want to, some of the males think it's appropriate to expect sex in return for favours,

Before people come out and say maybe I am a bad friend, I am not, I would literally throw myself in front of a loaded gun to protect my mates, I am never late, I help them when they need it, I compliment them, I am there for them and yet they still take me for granted and let me down all the time. Half of them didn't even come out for my birthday and when I won money on my b'day I had to buy them drinks!

That would be a strange conclusion to come to

Like MU said, you have shitty friends from the looks of it.

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

That would be a strange conclusion to come to

Like MU said, you have shitty friends from the looks of it.

Yeah, I agree.

I would more likely come to the following two conclusions-

a) Cliffy has bad friends

b) Cliffy is in desperate need of attention and is willing to overlook point a.

 

[Frederick]

He had 9 posts, just didn't make the list

God you're such a killjoy. Here I was thinking that I'd been participating in a thread that wasn't tainted by him and now you've come to rain on my parade

 

[Misanthrope]

I feel dirty.

I think I'm going to do the genius rock in the shower while listening to Deathcab for Cutie.

 

[Springs]

The majority of my friends have tendency to be unreliable it's not a male/female thing, they cancel plans last minute, they show up late to plans without warning, they try to manipulate me into doing things I don't want to, some of the males think it's appropriate to expect sex in return for favours,

Before people come out and say maybe I am a bad friend, I am not, I would literally throw myself in front of a loaded gun to protect my mates, I am never late, I help them when they need it, I compliment them, I am there for them and yet they still take me for granted and let me down all the time. Half of them didn't even come out for my birthday and when I won money on my b'day I had to buy them drinks!

Wow. That might be the first and only thing we have ever had in common.

Except I don't think I would talk to those male friends who expect sex in return for a favour. What kind of friend is that?

Also the ones that didn't come out for your birthday sound pretty slack. I had a fair few that didn't come out to my 21st that I was disappointed with. But I guess that's expected with footy team mates who rarely even bother to turn up for training.
But still, driving 65 km there and 65 km back three times a week so you don't let your mates down and they can't do the same once a year for you.

 

[Twizzle]

God you're such a killjoy. Here I was thinking that I'd been participating in a thread that wasn't tainted by him and now you've come to rain on my parade

lol, sorry

 

[WOTBEH]

Hey so I browsed around for some rings, I found one for 2k, took a photo and sent it to her, she loves it.

So maybe I can bargain them down another $250

 

[Misanthrope]

Sweet Christ, jewelery is an even bigger rip-off than designer clothing.

 

[WOTBEH]

Sweet Christ, jewelery is an even bigger rip-off than designer clothing.

I know

):

 

[Frederick]

Sweet Christ, jewelery is an even bigger rip-off than designer clothing.

Mine emptied about 5.5k out of my bank account

 

[WOTBEH]

wow

I feel cheap but come to think about it I cannot afford that much

 

[Misanthrope]

There are two things in life worth spending that amount of money on:

- Things that enrich your life (a house, car, things you need)
- Experiences

Wedding rings, fancy clothes, designer shoes and other such dross are just industry telling us that we need these things. Blows my mind what people pay for a piece of largely useless (in a practical sense) metal with an equally useless (albeit pretty) bit of rock in it.

Not insulting either of you (or anybody else) for doing it. Your money, your decision.

But it'll be a cold day in hell when I piss that amount of money up against a wall when it could be spent on travel or something I'll get some use out of.