There are two things in life worth spending that amount of money on:
- Things that enrich your life (a house, car, things you need)
- Experiences
Wedding rings, fancy clothes, designer shoes and other such dross are just industry telling us that we need these things. Blows my mind what people pay for a piece of largely useless (in a practical sense) metal with an equally useless (albeit pretty) bit of rock in it.
Not insulting either of you (or anybody else) for doing it. Your money, your decision.
But it'll be a cold day in hell when I piss that amount of money up against a wall when it could be spent on travel or something I'll get some use out of.
Well, if an expensive one is what she wants an expensive one is what she will get. I might not agree with it but to be honest, seeing her happy like that would be more use to me than travelling or a car.
For me, a wedding ring made out of plastic would mean as much to me as one worth $10,000. The real worth is still seeing it on your finger after fifty years. Wouldn't matter how shiny it was then.
I don't know why people want to spend money on things they do. Jewellry is one thing. It is really worth nothing but what we put on it. A big house, or mcmansions like they are sometimes called, is another. There's not much difference between one and a regular house other than a whole lot of spread out space. What worth does it give you having the ceiling so high?
And as for a ring or other marriage particulars having symbolism, I think that's the very reason it doesn't need to be expensive. The house I will live in is a dilapidated little cottage that my grandfather has owned for 40 years. It's not expensive, it's not flashy, it's not big and it's probably not what most people want. But it was built in the 20s, was the old stationmaster residence for many years and is the oldest house in the town. I don't want to see it fall into the hands of some lowlifes who trash it like they have many other old houses in the town. It's symbolic to me, it stands for many things I believe in. And I don't want to see it pass away like so many other old things and traditions.
And anyway, there is not much use for weddings now apart from symbolism, and even a lot of the symbolism has gone away.
But in my opinion love is the only real thing worth spending money on, as it's the only thing I'm really living for. I wouldn't balk at spending all I had on wedding things and rings really.
My father has always spent his money on work. $300,000 trucks that take years to pay off, then when he finally has, he buys another one so another 300,000 in debt. I have never cared for spending money on things like that, but then again I've never had any ambition for a career.
