Ask LU - The Relationship Advice Thread III

[muzby]

cliffy, if it makes things any easier, age falsification is more common than you think..

infact, one mrs muzby's friend's now husband lied about his age.. By about 5 years.. She got annoyed when she found out, but it didn't change who he was..

they've now been married for 8 years..

and strangely enough, he did it because he thought he wouldn't have a chance with her (he was older)

 

[Didgi]

lol so he lied because he didn't think you'd give him a chance

it now transpires that you wouldn't have given him a chance

Sounds like a good f**king call.

You did give him a chance, like him, continue on.

 

[sensesmaybenumbed]

If this one tiny thing is a deal breaker then I don't think this will go well.

Either got over it or move on.

 

[Cliffhanger]

he's age is irrelevant It's the fact that it feels like everyone we were together he wasn't totally honest with me. I don't j know if i wouldn't have given him a chance knowing his real age.

I Was never gOing to dump him over it. I was just hurt

 

[adamkungl]

Tell him you're hurt, explain why, if he understands and doesn't make dishonesty a habit, move on.

 

[butchmcdick]

Ladies be cray cray

 

[phantom eel]

Or just don't allow yourself to be melodramatic over nothing, do the mature things and forgive then happily move on (with him).

 

[Misanthrope]

The emotional difference between 21 and 23, for men, is negligible. If he was good enough at 23, he's really no different than he was at 21.

Men don't really grow up until their late twenties.

 

[dogslife]

I peaked at 14 I think.

 

[umina panther]

I'm not sure i have a peak

 

[sportive cupid]

I think more than anything I'm scared that he's going to Do a complete 360 and not want to be with me anymore because his wants will totally change when he gets older.

If he does a complete 360 things will be exactly the same ..isn't that what you want?m

Anyway,how do you know you will still want him in a years time? what's the rush.

 

[Cliffhanger]

Being in love sucks.I sicken myself. Post coital cuddling while listening to Bryan Adam's heaven. This love stuff is f**ked up.

 

[umina panther]

Gaaaay

 

[God-King Dean]

 

[Misanthrope]

I'm really confused by Michigan's behaviour lately.

Last Monday, the last time we hung out, I had her best friend giving me the 'don't you dare hurt her' speech, her friends teasing her about us being an item, and a drunken late night invitation to come over that I missed because my phone was dead.

She had a female friend visit for a week, so she was understandably quiet during that week - just occasional texts.

Texted to ask her to hang out yesterday and haven't heard a peep out of her.

Not sure why the sudden change of heart.

 

[muzby]

send her a dead rat.

universal sign of "i'm attracted to you"..

if she doesn't respond, it's not meant to be..

 

[Misanthrope]

NFI what to make of it. Don't want to pester her for an explanation, but we had been moving along pretty well prior to the sudden drop in communication.

 

[muzby]

maybe just send a dead mouse in the interim.. should give an indication of her intentions?

 

[Misanthrope]

Your sage wisdom is, as always, much appreciated.

I'm going to put the last AVO down to her being a crazy person rather than anything you told me to do.

 

[muzby]

exactly... the cops didn't even believe the stories from those girls who escaped from my basement..