This stuff is obviously fraught, and though I disagree plenty with IT and Possm and others making the same type of point about decision making, or common sense or avoiding risk. I don’t think thinking that way signals malice, or callousness, or lack of care or sympathy. I don’t even think it’s wrong, as far as it goes. I disagree though precisely because I don’t think it continues to what is the outcome of that approach. First fact to keep in mind is that the vast majority of rapes aren’t committed by strangers, but by Men the victim knows. So straight away the advice is no help to the majority of cases.
Secondly it basically says women should assume all men are potential rapists. Now far too many men are, but the majority still are not. It also doesn’t account that women do take precautions all the time, and that precisely because they are conscious that men may be violent can make it harder to say ‘no thanks I’ll wait outside while you go get changed’. It also puts limits on women’s opportunities in life, socially, economically, in their career.
There’s plenty more to say, but I’ll leave it with one more point. This is actually well researched, so feel free to look it up. Men who do assault women believe that more men commit similar assaults than is actually the case. They think that in similar situations most men would do what they did. The reason they think that is because of the prevailing attitude that at the mild end is expressed as ‘she should have exercised common sense and shouldn’t have gone back to the unit” through to “well she was dressed provocatively” then to “she knew what she was going there for”. I’m not having a go at you. As far as I can tell from reading posts on the internet, you seem fair and decent humans. But I’d encourage you to think further down the track of where that logic goes. Cheers