Rugged Rigid Robust Roy
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Nonsense, we are finally recognising that men are equally vulnerable as women psychologically and all that macho BS is just that. When you place great value and importance on something and it starts to crumble away from you then you are going to suffer emotionally. Some people can self manage it, some cant. For those that cant having someone who can help you through it can literally be a matter of life and death, but the first step is being ok to say I'm not coping and not feel belittled or stigmatised because of that.
I was a mental health nurse and worked with many WW2 vets when they were old and trust me they were just as vulnerable when they came home but society didn't make it ok to admit that so they drank, beat up their wives or kids or stepped in front of trains as a coping mechanism. We should be grateful society is changing, there but for the grace of god go I and all that......
you are a soft boiled googy egg. plenty of people face great dramas in their lives, death, abuse, starvation, and they don't curl up in the corner and sook it up that its all too hard. You are in charge of YOU. We have a fight or flight mechanism in all of us and you have to understand, there are actually times in your life where you have to stand up and fight for who you are and what you believe in and crying on television is not going to do you any good.
You have to work hard and even then you don't get everything your own way. and I'm not talking about pampered sportsmen who are on massive amounts of money for their status in life, I'm talking about the local Sri Lankan shell service station manager who has to get up at 4.30am every morning and drive an hour to his job and open up the shop and work to about 3pm in the afternoon and send his money back to his family in Sri Lanka to make sure his sisters can get married. Every day he gets up at 4.30 in the morning and works a long shift so
or what about the owner of the city gym who has spent his life savings and gone into massive debt to buy the gym just prior to Covid and now no one goes into the City any more and he has lost his business and lost his house and subsequently his wife has left him and he doesn't see his kids, all over a situation that he had no control over and is horribly frustrated.
All these things happen every day.
But the only person who can pick up the pieces of your life and rebuild it is YOU