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Seems to be a lot of black and white answers from people on here regarding drugs and the raising of children. I'm sure you are all just arguing your side of things and are well aware that things are more grey than that.
I know various professional people (doctors and lawyers) that are ambitious and hard working yet at the end of the day prefer to wind down with a cone or a joint. They are not lazy in the least. I've also known people who get stoned lay around all day doing nothing accept thinking about the next hit. I even knew a couple who were heroin users, they worked all week and shot up on weekends.
When it comes to parenting I wonder how any of you commenting actually have children. Not because you don't have the right to an opinion you certainly do. However before I had children I knew exactly how I would parent and knew it would work, then I actually had children and all that goes out the window. It's a constant learning process and being adaptable is just one part of being a good parent.
Kids can have a lot of cash without parents giving it to them. My eldest is 15 and works for Events cinemas and has more disposable income than I do. I know she is not buying drugs with it though as we monitor and control her use of it.
I can never see myself drug testing my children but if circumstances changed and I thought it was for their good I would consider it. I would like to think I could tell without the need to test that they were using but that would be niave. My youngest turns 12 tomorrow and for the moment I believe in trusting all 3 until that trust is broken. However I certainly monitor and control to an extent their activities to limit as much as possible their chances of being in a situation where they may make a bad choice but sooner or later they are going to have to make those decisions for themselves. One thing I know for sure it is no exact science and what I think is right today I may think is wrong tomorrow.
I know various professional people (doctors and lawyers) that are ambitious and hard working yet at the end of the day prefer to wind down with a cone or a joint. They are not lazy in the least. I've also known people who get stoned lay around all day doing nothing accept thinking about the next hit. I even knew a couple who were heroin users, they worked all week and shot up on weekends.
When it comes to parenting I wonder how any of you commenting actually have children. Not because you don't have the right to an opinion you certainly do. However before I had children I knew exactly how I would parent and knew it would work, then I actually had children and all that goes out the window. It's a constant learning process and being adaptable is just one part of being a good parent.
Kids can have a lot of cash without parents giving it to them. My eldest is 15 and works for Events cinemas and has more disposable income than I do. I know she is not buying drugs with it though as we monitor and control her use of it.
I can never see myself drug testing my children but if circumstances changed and I thought it was for their good I would consider it. I would like to think I could tell without the need to test that they were using but that would be niave. My youngest turns 12 tomorrow and for the moment I believe in trusting all 3 until that trust is broken. However I certainly monitor and control to an extent their activities to limit as much as possible their chances of being in a situation where they may make a bad choice but sooner or later they are going to have to make those decisions for themselves. One thing I know for sure it is no exact science and what I think is right today I may think is wrong tomorrow.
