Superthread LIV - Honouring the A-League

[BDR]

Ok, need some objective thoughts on this one.

As some of you know, I had an issue getting my bond back from the real estate landlord. Long story short, we legally cut our lease after they decided to sell the joint and were allowed to do so. The landlord, despite being shown the legislation that said we could, decided to withhold our bond and so its all ended up at tribunal.

Now, let me paint the picture. This is 4 days before we go to Tonga and I've just got a call from the RE telling me all this. He said we could hook up a meeting when I get back to hopefully head it off, and I agree.

Given my pregnant wife is a stress head and these types of things often upset her, I determine not to tell her until after we get back; 1, because its not solid, and 2, because it would wreck our holiday.

Today, I tell her whats going on and she gets upset then tells me I'm a liar. She then hangs up on me (one of my major pet peeves) and now she's pissed off at me.

Have I done wrong?!

Bit of a patronising attitude to be honest Drew, you assumed she couldn't handle it. People resent that stuff, even if it is definitely true.

That said you didn't really lie, and if you explain she might come round. Wouldn't count on it though, she is female after all

 

[Skinner]

What about me? It isn't fair.....

Hey.......I have an idea for a song

 

[Rhino_NQ]

bewbs

 

[Alba]

Doodles

 

[dogslife]

bewbs

I'm beginning to notice a theme with your posts

 

[Rhino_NQ]

I'm beginning to notice a theme with your posts

bewbs

 

[Alba]

Good night everyone!! Sleeping pills kicking in!!

Love youse all!!

 

[Joker's Wild]

Ok, need some objective thoughts on this one.

As some of you know, I had an issue getting my bond back from the real estate landlord. Long story short, we legally cut our lease after they decided to sell the joint and were allowed to do so. The landlord, despite being shown the legislation that said we could, decided to withhold our bond and so its all ended up at tribunal.

Now, let me paint the picture. This is 4 days before we go to Tonga and I've just got a call from the RE telling me all this. He said we could hook up a meeting when I get back to hopefully head it off, and I agree.

Given my pregnant wife is a stress head and these types of things often upset her, I determine not to tell her until after we get back; 1, because its not solid, and 2, because it would wreck our holiday.

Today, I tell her whats going on and she gets upset then tells me I'm a liar. She then hangs up on me (one of my major pet peeves) and now she's pissed off at me.

Have I done wrong?!

Big mistake mate, even if it was made with the best of intentions

Sounds like your missus resents being "protected" and would probably have been happy with you telling her whats going on and that you'll take care of it.

Live and learn bro. Im sure she will eventually forgive you (but unlikely forget...)

 

[Monk]

Good night everyone!! Sleeping pills kicking in!!

Love youse all!!

laters alba m8

 

[madunit]

Bit of a patronising attitude to be honest Drew, you assumed she couldn't handle it. People resent that stuff, even if it is definitely true.

That said you didn't really lie, and if you explain she might come round. Wouldn't count on it though, she is female after all

spoken like someone whose never been in a relationship with someone who is easily stressed.

Drew, mate I know how you feel. It happened to me a few times with my missus when I was getting a home loan. I took on the full brunt of the stress to shield it from her. She got frustrated along the way, but knowing how much worse it could have been was some comfort.

She'll calm down and it'll all blow over.

You just need to make sure you are always in control of the situation (with the bond) and make sure she understands that when you tell her.

Even if a white lie is required to buy you some time.

Furthermore, you don't need her to be stressed while pregnant. So don't feel bad, you had her best interests at heart and if necessary, you can let her know that, as sensitively as you can.

 

[Rhino_NQ]

Good night everyone!! Sleeping pills kicking in!!

Love youse all!!

chloroform works quicker....i mean what?

goodnight :nwave:

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

Ok, need some objective thoughts on this one.

As some of you know, I had an issue getting my bond back from the real estate landlord. Long story short, we legally cut our lease after they decided to sell the joint and were allowed to do so. The landlord, despite being shown the legislation that said we could, decided to withhold our bond and so its all ended up at tribunal.

Now, let me paint the picture. This is 4 days before we go to Tonga and I've just got a call from the RE telling me all this. He said we could hook up a meeting when I get back to hopefully head it off, and I agree.

Given my pregnant wife is a stress head and these types of things often upset her, I determine not to tell her until after we get back; 1, because its not solid, and 2, because it would wreck our holiday.

Today, I tell her whats going on and she gets upset then tells me I'm a liar. She then hangs up on me (one of my major pet peeves) and now she's pissed off at me.

Have I done wrong?!

You are married.

Threfore the answer is always yes to this question.

 

[Rhino_NQ]

hungry again

 

[Jason Maher]

You are married.

Threfore the answer is always yes to this question.

I second this motion.

 

[Rhino_NQ]

just started reading "unholy trinity", good thing a word on a piece of paper somewhere is the only thing that makes me catholic

 

[butchmcdick]

Ok, need some objective thoughts on this one.

As some of you know, I had an issue getting my bond back from the real estate landlord. Long story short, we legally cut our lease after they decided to sell the joint and were allowed to do so. The landlord, despite being shown the legislation that said we could, decided to withhold our bond and so its all ended up at tribunal.

Now, let me paint the picture. This is 4 days before we go to Tonga and I've just got a call from the RE telling me all this. He said we could hook up a meeting when I get back to hopefully head it off, and I agree.

Given my pregnant wife is a stress head and these types of things often upset her, I determine not to tell her until after we get back; 1, because its not solid, and 2, because it would wreck our holiday.

Today, I tell her whats going on and she gets upset then tells me I'm a liar. She then hangs up on me (one of my major pet peeves) and now she's pissed off at me.

Have I done wrong?!

You kept something from her

The ladies don't like that. If you kept this from her what else are you keeping from her ? (I don't beleive you are keeping anything from her but women are strange creatures. They are not like us Drew)

Plus she is preganant. Bitches be crazy when theyare pregnant. If you think this sucks wait until the baby arrives.

Good times Drew, good times

 

[Rhino_NQ]

from what i understand even if there wasn't an issue with anything and everything you did was correct there is somehow still something wrong.

I have pretty much 0 experience when it comes to other halves but that is what i've put together from hearing things here and there

 

[Drew-Sta]

No. You were trying to protect her, you weren't lying to her. You had her best interests in mind. Once she calms down, she will see that. I don't know if she will admit it to you though. Lol

:lol: I feel like this is the case.

Bit of a patronising attitude to be honest Drew, you assumed she couldn't handle it. People resent that stuff, even if it is definitely true.

That said you didn't really lie, and if you explain she might come round. Wouldn't count on it though, she is female after all

Not patronising. If you'd seen the stress she went through with the move, you'd understand a bit better that it was meant with good intentions. She's a strong woman; no doubt at all. But she is also a stress head and the less hormones like that running through her body the better.

Big mistake mate, even if it was made with the best of intentions

Sounds like your missus resents being "protected" and would probably have been happy with you telling her whats going on and that you'll take care of it.

Live and learn bro. Im sure she will eventually forgive you (but unlikely forget...)

The deception was the big deal for her.

spoken like someone whose never been in a relationship with someone who is easily stressed.

Drew, mate I know how you feel. It happened to me a few times with my missus when I was getting a home loan. I took on the full brunt of the stress to shield it from her. She got frustrated along the way, but knowing how much worse it could have been was some comfort.

She'll calm down and it'll all blow over.

You just need to make sure you are always in control of the situation (with the bond) and make sure she understands that when you tell her.

Even if a white lie is required to buy you some time.

Furthermore, you don't need her to be stressed while pregnant. So don't feel bad, you had her best interests at heart and if necessary, you can let her know that, as sensitively as you can.

Have tried unsuccessfully Just ended up apologising as I can hack the 'you lied to me' bit; I just get annoyed that she never seems to see things from my perspective.

You are married.

Threfore the answer is always yes to this question.

:lol:

You kept something from her

The ladies don't like that. If you kept this from her what else are you keeping from her ? (I don't beleive you are keeping anything from her but women are strange creatures. They are not like us Drew)

Plus she is preganant. Bitches be crazy when theyare pregnant. If you think this sucks wait until the baby arrives.

Good times Drew, good times

Wait, you're saying it gets worse?

 

[Rhino_NQ]

deciding whether i should get an afternoon kebab

 

[Goldthorpe]

My core best mates [which is about 6 or 7] I have known since high school way back in 1994, so that makes it 19 years - Yep, I feel old.