I always feel somewhat selfish for thinking that whenever I'm in this very situation. I don't ever see myself getting into it, even for the person I've sadly lost. Knowing that person as well as I do, I'm sure they would understand.
The thing that is so much worse is going to a funeral that was for a non-religious person, set up by their religious relatives. I can't hold back the anger on that one, so f**king inappropriate. There is no closure and you can't even relate with the person there.
Yeah it's a tough one.
It's really when it spills over to how it was on the weekend that it gets me mad. Even my dad, whose brother it was who died, was getting pissed off next to me over the whole thing. The rest of the service was good, but that bit was just not appropriate, I didn't think.
As for the second, it kind of depends. My Gran wasn't religious but her funeral was at a church, her kids (other than my mum) were all at least a bit religious and it was fine, was just a basic, nice funeral with none of the more maddening aspects of the faith.
I've been to a few Catholic funerals as well, which are pretty horrible (and again impersonal, outside the eulogy), but when it's what will be best for the family it's understandable completely (even in the terrible circumstances, such as earlier this year after a friend had committed suicide, I don't know if it would've mattered what denomination or whatever it was, there was just nothing that could've been said that made that feel like a good thing or something for the best or whatever had happened, that person is just gone far too young, not in a better place).
It's when it sounds like an attempt to convert people, as it did on the weekend, that's real bad. And yeah, I'd be mad if it were a religious ceremony for someone for who that would go completely against their beliefs though, that's just poor form.
