Ultrathread I: Thread of the Year - 2014

[muzby]

f**k. out of beer. thought i had more than that... still wide awake.. and will most likely have to get up around 5am..

 

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

pretty sure i'm both bulletproof AND immortal.

So life is like Highlander?

 

[muzby]

kind of.. it gets annoying with people occasionally trying to cut my head off though..

but having a queen soundtrack playing as i go about my life is pretty sweet..

 

[Apey]

well not really.. it's still a fear..

It might be semantics but technically fear is a response you have to a threat whereas anxiety is the unrealistic expectation of a threat.

i throw you into a crowd of people you don't know, where you have to spend the next two hours mingling, how would that sit with you?

My social anxiety is weird. Sometimes I get in the zone and talk to people I barely know fairly comfortably, other times I will put off seeing people I have known for years because the idea of talking to them face to face makes me incredibly anxious.

Now if you said you were going to throw me into a crowd of people I don't know where I have to spend the next hours mingling with two - three people at a time while the rest watch and observe I would probably just die instead.

I laugh when I get invited to these FFB get-togethers because that is the exact type of thing that I will just never be able to do.

 

[muzby]

It might be semantics but technically fear is a response you have to a threat whereas anxiety is the unrealistic expectation of a threat.

anxiety is still a fear.. I can be up top of centrepoint tower.. I know the glass is thick, is highly unlikely to break or fall out, but still no way you'll get me anywhere near the windows to look down..

there's no immediate threat there, just a percieved one in my head..

and clowns.. In all honesty i know Ronald McDonald won't hurt me, but if there's a real one at a maccas, no chance you'll get me inside..

 

[Dani]

I laugh when I get invited to these FFB get-togethers because that is the exact type of thing that I will just never be able to do.

Sorry

I felt that way once. Head first into it. People rule though.

 

[Misanthrope]

I laugh when I get invited to these FFB get-togethers because that is the exact type of thing that I will just never be able to do.

Social anxiety is shit. My 24 year old brother had to drop out of school because of it. With plenty of support from the family (he refused therapy) he's gotten to the point that he plays soccer (in the final round of FFA Cup qualification, yay!), has a full-time job, and has even traveled to Fiji and the Philippines with us.

Not that any of that helps you, but if you'd seen him when he was vomiting and fighting to get away from the car - you'd be hard pressed to recognise the guy.

That said, if a boozy night out is a stretch, we should at least try and catch up for a coffee or somesuch, old bean!

 

[miguel de cervantes]

I don't much care. I don't foresee our generation leaving me so little to worry about as retirement. We'll have bigger fish to fry.

Interesting. Do elaborate.

 

[Apey]

Social anxiety is shit. My 24 year old brother had to drop out of school because of it. With plenty of support from the family (he refused therapy) he's gotten to the point that he plays soccer (in the final round of FFA Cup qualification, yay!), has a full-time job, and has even traveled to Fiji and the Philippines with us.

Not that any of that helps you, but if you'd seen him when he was vomiting and fighting to get away from the car - you'd be hard pressed to recognise the guy.

That said, if a boozy night out is a stretch, we should at least try and catch up for a coffee or somesuch, old bean!

Mine has never been that bad thankfully; that sounds horrible but it's good to hear he too has improved. I do a pretty good job of avoiding the particular situations that set me off the most. I also used to be the complete opposite when I was a kid. I've gone from extrovert to extreme introvert (my brother went the opposite way, funnily enough!). So I suspect it's not something that will be with me forever once I start to break the shackles off. It really only developed after finished high school. In high school I was always nervous about speeches and being an anti-social gaming hermit for the last 6 years pretty much pushed me into the social anxiety territory >_>

 

[Skinner]

Don't want to put the mockers on it, but this is a really enjoyable thread.

 

[muzby]

i'm sorry.. i couldn't hodor...

i mean resist..

 

[Dragon2010]

:crazy:

Finding that plane in the ocean would be closer to trying to find where you left that single speck of sand in your house than where you left your keys.

I'm not talking about it missing. That's happened. I'm saying, how goes it go missing in the first place. I, like many others, have no idea of it's final resting place and for all we know could not even be in an ocean.

Given the amount of flight-data, trackers, military GPS/Radar, SAT Ping (SAT phones on board), at disappears. That's the part I'm talking about.

I worded the analogy wrong. Slightly.

 

[Dragon2010]

My social anxiety is weird. Sometimes I get in the zone and talk to people I barely know fairly comfortably, other times I will put off seeing people I have known for years because the idea of talking to them face to face makes me incredibly anxious.

Now if you said you were going to throw me into a crowd of people I don't know where I have to spend the next hours mingling with two - three people at a time while the rest watch and observe I would probably just die instead.

I laugh when I get invited to these FFB get-togethers because that is the exact type of thing that I will just never be able to do.

That sounds like me a few years ago. I had social anxiety throughout most of high-school years and right until about two years ago.

It sucks, and it's hard to battle/fight - not to mention, it made me extremely anti-social to the point where some days I'd be lucky to speak 10 words overall.

It's hard, no doubt about that. But I built mine by hanging around people I trust to take me out, and slowly break the barrier. Cousins, parents and so forth. From there, I moved on.

I also used my confidence in others area to traverse into social confidence. (ie. Well, I'm confident enough to do this, so I should be able to talk to a person, they are human after all).

Best of luck, Apey.

 

[sensesmaybenumbed]

With sgl threatening your pancreas day and night I wouldn't blame you.

 

[RHCP]

Man, that sounds painful. I was pretty shy and anxious around people I didn't know well growing up, but that was more because of what was going on at home than any intrinsic anxiety. Not even close to what some of you guys had described though. Hopefully you can get past it Rapey.

Thankfully, I'm more or less the opposite now. Talking to strangers is probably easier than talking to acquaintances for me now.

 

[Misanthrope]

Interesting. Do elaborate.

Given the direction our government in particular is headed, I fully expect to be turned into soylent green within weeks of reaching retirement age.

Mine has never been that bad thankfully; that sounds horrible but it's good to hear he too has improved. I do a pretty good job of avoiding the particular situations that set me off the most. I also used to be the complete opposite when I was a kid. I've gone from extrovert to extreme introvert (my brother went the opposite way, funnily enough!). So I suspect it's not something that will be with me forever once I start to break the shackles off. It really only developed after finished high school. In high school I was always nervous about speeches and being an anti-social gaming hermit for the last 6 years pretty much pushed me into the social anxiety territory >_>

You sound similar to me in some ways. I was crazy extroverted growing up and in early high school, but a combination of bullying and increasing self awareness made me really introverted from about the age of 15 and 24.

I try and tell people that I still consider myself to be quite shy, but they don't believe me.

If they'd seen me when I was 23 and working a check-out in my sleepy home town and spending the other 10 or so hours of my day playing WoW, they'd understand.

 

[Apey]

If they'd seen me when I was 23 and working a check-out in my sleepy home town and spending the other 10 or so hours of my day playing WoW, they'd understand.

:lol: I have pretty much overcome the mmorpg curse, but boy do I remember this. Not that I've ever worked check-out specifically, that type of work comes under the anxiety umbrella.

 

[muzby]

apey, is now the wrong time to tell you that i hacked your web cam & shared the link with everyone on here, so we can watch you as you type?


man, you should see the look on your face..


hang on, i'll send you the link so you actually can..

 

[sensesmaybenumbed]

apey, is now the wrong time to tell you that i hacked your web cam & shared the link with everyone on here, so we can watch you as you type?


man, you should see the look on your face..


hang on, i'll send you the link so you actually can..

You mean this link?

 

[DB]

Wrong one man...

this is the real Link