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Ask LU - The relationship advice thread II

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sportive cupid

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I just told you ,so there is not the lull in conversation that typically happens with strangers.
also the quality of the conversation is better after shared experiences .
that's why so many dates don't work.We expect to instantly be able to chat comfortably with strangers,and most of us can't do that.

Small talk is the biggest damper on attractiveness .
 

Misanthrope

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I just told you ,so there is not the lull in conversation that typically happens with strangers.
also the quality of the conversation is better after shared experiences .
that's why so many dates don't work.We expect to instantly be able to chat comfortably with strangers,and most of us can't do that.

Small talk is the biggest damper on attractiveness .

That all depends on how good you are at small talk.

As for activities for dates, I'd agree with you if it were something both of them could enjoy like rock climbing or bowling or something. But watching him drive his car? Jesus.
 

sportive cupid

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Nah....people who are good at small talk are usually oblivious to the fact that their date is bored.

It's just my experience ,as someone who isn't impressed with small talk,and who is somewhat shy on first meting someone.


Flame away.
 

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If he is shy and you are too,then doing something instead of just sitting opposite each other at a dinner table might be a much better option.
Im a firm believer that the first few dates should really involve activity so when the convo lags there isn't all the awkwardness.

I did say a few posts later that getting him in his comfort zone is a good thing. I may be a judgemental bitch, but im not a moron.
 

Misanthrope

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Nah....people who are good at small talk are usually oblivious to the fact that their date is bored.

It's just my experience ,as someone who isn't impressed with small talk.

Flame away.

As somebody who relies on small talk and personality to get laid, I'm not going to flame you. I'm just going to shake my head.

You're probably not impressed by small talk because you don't speak Swahili.
 

sportive cupid

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Well I was only offering you suggestions.
I will avoid doing that in future.
Stick to the boys ..they know alot more than me.
 

sportive cupid

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As somebody who relies on small talk and personality to get laid, I'm not going to flame you. I'm just going to shake my head.

You're probably not impressed by small talk because you don't speak Swahili.

Ohh we are talking about getting laid.
Well that's different.Im sure small talk could work well.

How do you know I can't speak Swahili.
 

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Just ask questions about them and their lives. It's been scientifically proven that people love to talk about themselves and they actually like people who ask them questions about themselves better than those who don't. Easy way to get laid...or getting to the next level, is to just keep the other person talking, whether you are interested or not. Call it small talk or whatever, but it's necessary to move to the next level of the relationship.
 

muzby

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Just ask questions about them and their lives.

exactly. ask them things like family background, perhaps what their mother's maiden name was.. what was their first pet's name? what was the first street they lived on? what is their favourite 4 digit number etc etc.


then get them really drunk and take them back to their place for a bit of carnal fun..

and whilst they're passed out afterwards, steal their credit & keycards and nick off..
 

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Just ask questions about them and their lives. It's been scientifically proven that people love to talk about themselves and they actually like people who ask them questions about themselves better than those who don't.

I am pretty much the opposite. I hate people asking and hate talking about myself. I am not people.
 

gUt

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I want a date. One that ends (or begins) with seks.

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