Ask LU - The Relationship Advice Thread III

[Springs]

Why would a woman suddenly out of the blue say 'we can't be friends anymore, for personal reasons'??

Honestly she's a great person who's been on and off about me for the last 3 months or so, but I'm getting tired of the dramatics.

 

[Frederick]

Why would a woman suddenly out of the blue say 'we can't be friends anymore, for personal reasons'??

Honestly she's a great person who's been on and off about me for the last 3 months or so, but I'm getting tired of the dramatics.

Has Aunt Flo come to visit?

 

[Springs]

Has Aunt Flo come to visit?

lol, probably.

One time it's 'I want you' then it's 'leave me alone, I don't think we can be friends' then 'I have feelings for you but don't know what to do' then it's 'I think we should be friends and see where things go' then 'I don't think we can be 'just friends''. It seems to go week by week.

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

I think it's time for you to take the lead here. Sounds like she is running the show, even though she is an emotional wreck.

If I were you, I'd tell her to bugger off and not to come back unless she's made up her mind that the two of you have some sort of future together. If she doesn't come back then you know it wasn't meant to be and you can move on with your life. If she does come back, well you have some certainty around things and it's happy days. Either way, it's her that needs to make up her mind and your life shouldn't be on hold while she is doing that.

 

[Red Bear]

I'm a moron. At least I think I am.

Didn't pursue a girl I went to uni with at the time, although I am pretty sure she was into me. Was put off by age/maturity difference, but she was a good person. Have tried to go down that route again recently. She's the same appealing girl with a bit more world experience, like her alot more. Met her out on the weekend, got her away from her friends and within an instant they were back to take her home. Should;ve taken opportunity then, should;ve done something much earlier.

Am somewhat miserable at present about my whole last 18 months or so, and all I do is replay actions in my head. Worst of all, no closure either way.

Might give her a call just to get final prognosis.

 

[Springs]

And now she just tells me she's met someone else, just a week after apparently 'not thinking I'm capable of ever being in a relationship again'. Isn't that just f**king brilliant.

 

[Joker's Wild]

Red Bear - Man up and call her. No regrets bro

Springs - Flick her and move on

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

Red Bear - Man up and call her. No regrets bro

Springs - Flick her and move on

Agree with all of the above.

Red Bear - If you don't make the call, you will wonder "what could have been" for the rest of your life.

Just ring her and ask her out for a coffee and a chat.

Springs - Time to push the eject button. Otherwise she will string you along.

 

[Springs]

I'm not going to be strung along if she's with someone else.
I'm sick of being f**ked around.

 

[butchmcdick]

Red Bear - Man up and call her. No regrets bro

Springs - Flick her and move on

This

Red Bear reach down, gently remove your tampon and have a crack

Either way you are out of the mental torment you are in now. THat or just continue to replay it all over and over in you head

Springs she is nuts. The head f**ks won't end. Be like a housewife whose washing machine had broken down and find somewhere else to drop your load

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

This

Red Bear reach down, gently remove your tampon and have a crack

Either way you are out of the mental torment you are in now. THat or just continue to replay it all over and over in you head

Springs she is nuts. The head f**ks won't end. Be like a housewife whose washing machine had broken down and find somewhere else to drop your load

Sometimes, when the washing machine is broken, you just need to do a few loads by hand.

 

[Joker's Wild]

Or go to the laundromat, pick a machine you like, hand over some cash then let it do the work for you

Why are we talking about washing clothes anyway? Weird

 

[butchmcdick]

My gran still does it by hand

 

[Springs]

She's nuts. Sick of lies and hypocrisy. Was all willing to let it go a few weeks ago and then she said she still has feelings for me but needs time to sort shit out as she's not ready for a relationship yet and doesn't know if the feelings are genuine. A week later she's ready to end our friendship over some guy she just met (who she apparently has 'genuine' feelings for). When I ask why it's all 'I don't owe you an explanation who do you think you are??'

To the laundromat!

 

[Twizzle]

Or go to the laundromat, pick a machine you like, hand over some cash then let it do the work for you

Why are we talking about washing clothes anyway? Weird

who was talking about clothes ?

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

The big problem with the laundromat is that you aren't sure how many loads the washing machines have done prior to you arriving.

Some of those machines handle 15 or 16 loads a day.

 

[RHCP]

It's a joke that you have to pay so much more to use the dryer.

 

[Twizzle]

and they get pretty wet too

some of them can take some pretty big loads

 

[Joker's Wild]

The big problem with the laundromat is that you aren't sure how many loads the washing machines have done prior to you arriving.

Some of those machines handle 15 or 16 loads a day.

True, but you're also guaranteed to get your load done so its a bit of a trade off

 

[butchmcdick]

At least when you drop a load into a washing machine it won't constanty text you and call you for weeks afterward