Ask LU - The Relationship Advice Thread III

[umina panther]

Yes.

Stay with him. Love is grown, not bought.

In short, you picked well and you should keep on with him

Have to disagree. Love does grow but if theirs nothing there to start with it won't ever happen

 

[Apey]

Cute girl in seminar mentioned NRL to back up her argument out of the blue.

Do I proceed directly to wifing her or will a period of courtship be required?

Go home and have a wank every time she smiles at you

pic related

 

[Drew-Sta]

Have to disagree. Love does grow but if theirs nothing there to start with it won't ever happen

Love isn't just a feeling, mate. It's a series of decisions and priorities as well as other elements. The consequence is the feeling stems out of the behaviour and action.

You've been watching too much Jane Austin if you think there has to be a spark present or it will never show up.

 

[Springs]

Have to disagree. Love does grow but if theirs nothing there to start with it won't ever happen

Completely silly.

My parents knew each other as kids, didn't get together until 16.
I know plenty of couples who have known each other for years before they got together.

 

[butchmcdick]

I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks, he's in love with me, he treats me like a princess, he really values me and sees the best in me. He's sweet and kind etc, the only problem is I'm not sure I like anything about him outside of how well he treats me and how much he values me.

Is that a legitimate reason to be with someone? I mean I could not ask anyone to treat me better than he does, he truly sees the best in me and we have a lot of fun together.

Much better to go out with a douche who treats u badly

I just don't understand women

 

[butchmcdick]

Slim, average rack.

Go for it

One day u will be about to turn 39 with a kid, mortgage, debt up the ass etc

U will wish u hit on more nrl savvy chicks didgi

Unless she is a titans fan. Then she can get f**ked

 

[urban eel]

Slim, average rack.

move along

 

[God-King Dean]

I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks, he's in love with me, he treats me like a princess, he really values me and sees the best in me. He's sweet and kind etc, the only problem is I'm not sure I like anything about him outside of how well he treats me and how much he values me.

Is that a legitimate reason to be with someone? I mean I could not ask anyone to treat me better than he does, he truly sees the best in me and we have a lot of fun together.

If you truly are a women as you claim to be, you would dump him.

Lose that zero & get yourself a hero.

 

[Springs]

Slim, average rack.

Knowledge of NRL + small tits > big tits + no NRL knowledge

Small boobs have charm too

When a girl is very interested in something I like, be it NRL or Lord of the Rings or metal or hiking etc, they automatically become sexier.

If you are like me and watch NRL every weekend it's on, play local league, talk about it nonstop, keep up to date on everything RL and spend all summer wishing it was back, an NRL-savvy girl is a big plus.

 

[Springs]

If you truly are a women as you claim to be, you would dump him.

Lose that zero & get yourself a hero.

I'm guessing that is sarcasm in reference to Cliffy's personality, but in case it's not...

How is treating someone well and seeing the best in her make someone a 'zero'?

 

[sportive cupid]

Love isn't just a feeling, mate. It's a series of decisions and priorities as well as other elements. The consequence is the feeling stems out of the behaviour and action.

You've been watching too much Jane Austin if you think there has to be a spark present or it will never show up.

I think you are both just a bit right.
Love isn't all about fireworks from the start and all the way along.
Sometimes when you start with a connectedness ,laugh at the same things ,he treats you well and you feel safe - as time goes on the physical ( and I'm just taking a stab here in thinking that's what Cliffy is getting at) sometimes starts to happen as well.

You have to remember that the fireworks aren't always there for ALL relationships. Whilst I definitely don't agree that as time passes so does the passion ,it goes more in waves if it is there.

So if you start with someone who lights your fire but not your mind ..the waves of lack go passion are going to be hell!
The connectedness never goes away ,not even for a short time.

So while both passion and intellectual connection are important ,the latter stays more than the former.

Passion can come from connectedness . But it doesn't really work n reverse.

 

[dogslife]

Dean is my hero

 

[Alba]

If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. Why waste the poor guy's time "just in case" you will one day love him.

 

[Helmet Man]

Despite loving league i would rather not have a gf who is a League fanatic. Its just that i'd rather discuss NRL with my mates and bros. If my girl was into League then imagine the talk you would have after having sex.

Chick - "So umm who do you reckon will be NSW halfback this year?

Its just a cue in for disaster.

But i wouldn't mind having a girl who has a vague idea of NRL and goes to games and stuff. (BTW Dani, Cliffy and Alba are all exceptions )

 

[Helmet Man]

If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. Why waste the poor guy's time "just in case" you will one day love him.

The qualities of a gentlemen that Cliffy has described are hard to come by these days. Maybe if there is no emotional connection then move on. But you could feel this guy would be the perfect type of husband.

 

[Dani]

Knowledge of NRL + small tits > big tits + no NRL knowledge

Small boobs have charm too

When a girl is very interested in something I like, be it NRL or Lord of the Rings or metal or hiking etc, they automatically become sexier.

If you are like me and watch NRL every weekend it's on, play local league, talk about it nonstop, keep up to date on everything RL and spend all summer wishing it was back, an NRL-savvy girl is a big plus.

I have huge boobs, like NRL, own all LOTR on DVD and like metal.

And yet I couldn't score a root in a brothel.

 

[Alba]

The qualities of a gentlemen that Cliffy has described are hard to come by these days. Maybe if there is no emotional connection then move on. But you could feel this guy would be the perfect type of husband.

Definitely! But if there isn't an emotional connection, you could ruin those qualities by wasting his time and then he will become just another arsehole.

 

[Non Terminator]

Despite loving league i would rather not have a gf who is a League fanatic. Its just that i'd rather discuss NRL with my mates and bros. If my girl was into League then imagine the talk you would have after having sex.

Chick - "So umm who do you reckon will be NSW halfback this year?

Its just a cue in for disaster.

But i wouldn't mind having a girl who has a vague idea of NRL and goes to games and stuff. (BTW Dani, Cliffy and Alba are all exceptions )

Mitchell Piercing through a big gap!!

 

[adamkungl]

Despite loving league i would rather not have a gf who is a League fanatic. Its just that i'd rather discuss NRL with my mates and bros. If my girl was into League then imagine the talk you would have after having sex.

Chick - "So umm who do you reckon will be NSW halfback this year?

Its just a cue in for disaster.

But i wouldn't mind having a girl who has a vague idea of NRL and goes to games and stuff. (BTW Dani, Cliffy and Alba are all exceptions )

If she answered "Mitchell Pearce" I'd be straight up ready to go again

 

[Helmet Man]

Definitely! But if there isn't an emotional connection, you could ruin those qualities by wasting his time and then he will become just another arsehole.

You are definitely right but i wouldn't term the guy as being 'just another arsehole', but depends on what you define as being 'just another arsehole'. In Cliffy's situation it seems like its all on her. If her rejects her then i can see the guy getting hurt and then breaking out of his "being nice" shackles and screwing around with other girls to compensate for him getting hurt. The guy is only treating Cliffy like a princess because he loves her.

I can really relate to this guy (probably not in terms of "treating her like a princess"), but in terms of being in love. I used to be crazy for this girl and i did things to try to make her feel the same about me. She did end up saying that she liked me and stuff but she only liked me because of the way I treated her. She told me she liked me for my personality and all that crap but i knew she didn't feel that emotional attachment when you like someone. She just liked me on the basis of how i treated her. That's all. She didn't end up going out with me but rather with my close friend who she had a emotional attachment with. It's funny because I know that close friend of mine had treated her like shit on some occasions during their relationship but she still loved him no matter what. She is at her most happiest when she is with him.

After me being rejected i really stopped being that nice type person. So you are right Alba about wasting his time and him being an arsehole lol. I knew i felt like i did waste my time and from then on just decided to have more fun and not be tied down to one girl cos her rejecting me cut deep. But i think maybe me getting rejected might have been a blessing in disguise, only means i can get intimate with more girls. But i can say to Cliffy is that the girl i was crazy for and my close mate are still going strong despite the bumps along the road so maybe getting a bf you have an emotional connection with is the way to go rather than being with a guy on the basis of being "really nice".