Ask LU - The relationship advice thread

[adamkungl]

Need a way to tell a good female friend of mine that i'm into her. Go crazy guys.

Oh god its a trap.

 

[Cliffhanger]

He still makes me smile, doesn't mean I still like him though.:sarcasm:

 

[adamkungl]

Been dating girl who was one of my best friends for about 3 months....realising that there's nothing really there though. so probs need to end it, even though she's done absolutely nothing wrong. worrrrrst.

 

[Dani]

Better than realising after 3 years...

 

[adamkungl]

fair point... i have no idea when or how im going to do this :\

 

[Hallatia]

just be straight with her. If there is nothing there, she probably sees that too

 

[adamkungl]

just be straight with her. If there is nothing there, she probably sees that too

That's not the impression I get...I haven't let on that theres anything wrong and she seems pretty into it.

 

[Hallatia]

oh, that sucks then ...

But, she may have been able to pick up on your position despite her own, in my experiences, people do that and respond to it

 

[adamkungl]

sucks, its fun and everything and shes an awesome girlfriend. My gut feeling is just 'meh'. Whereas after this amount of time I expect to sort of be feeling 'yeah I could see this being long term'

 

[Hallatia]

if she does really like you, then it might hurt her feelings to tell her that, even though that's probably what you should tell her.

 

[WYD]

That's not the impression I get...I haven't let on that theres anything wrong and she seems pretty into it.

Start dropping some hints so it doesn't hit her completely out of the blue.

 

[Skinner]

This ain't going to be a happy ending kungl, no matter which way you do it. She is obviously happy in the relationship, so you need to be really gentle.

 

[adamkungl]

This ain't going to be a happy ending kungl, no matter which way you do it.

Yeeeah. merkins f**ked

 

[dogslife]

Tell her you already have an arranged marriage

 

[adamkungl]

If I get one now it's not a lie!

 

[adamkungl]

This will require a visit from my old friend Captain Morgan methinks..

 

[Knightmare]

Better than realising after 3 years...

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Some people never take the chance and spend years after wondering "What if?"

 

[Dani]

I agree. But what i meant was it was better to realise now than drag it along and possibly miss other opportunities.

 

[Knightmare]

In kungl's case, yes.

 

[Karl]

She might be feeling the same way and is wrestling with the same issues.

AK "Um, there's something I need to talk about with you babe."

AKGF "What is it AK?"

AK "Well, you know how we were really good friends before we started going out?"

AKGF "The best friends AK."

AK "Well, I still feel like we're really really good frinds, you know?"

AKGF "Me too AK."

AK "It's the other bit, the lovers bit. I think maybe we were such good friends that becoming lovers was not a transition we should have made, you know? But I care about you a lot and this is hard to say."

AKGF "OH MY GOD I KNOW RIGHT? It's like I'm TOTALLY kissing my brother or something! And when we, you know, do it, it feels really weird but exciting a bit too because it's like, doing it with your really hot brother, but mostly just weird and like, a bit WRONG? You know? So yeah babe, totally understand where you're coming from. Friends it is, no benefits. Oh my God, I'm so glad we had this talk!"

AK "...."