horrie hastings
First Grade
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It’s heartbreaking when it happens. My nan had a slow decline from 1995 to 2002. It was like rewinding a tape as she slowly forgot but lived 40-50 year ago moments as if they were today. She had a turn in 2002 and was revived. Spent the next 8 years in a home like a husk. You feel guilty thinking if she’d passed in 2002 she’d have still been dotty old nan. Instead, we got 8 years of hospilisation and my pop sitting by her side withering in the vine. Dementia and old age is a shit of a thing. At least pop got another 7 years and I cherish those times as he got weary but still loved his cricket and footy and whilst he couldn’t get about as much, his memories were crystal clear. He got dotty too, at the end, but at 97, it’s par for the course. I miss them both sooooo much. My kids were babies but they’d love him now and all his sports stories.
That is sad. Both my mothers parents had passed away before i was born so i never got to know either of them. My fathers father was alive but he had remarried so i only remember my Grandfather on my fathers side and his wife my step grand mother. My memory is a bit muddy but i remember some one we used to call nanna staying at one of my aunties place when i was really young but not sure whether it was my fathers mother or not , i was only about 3 at the time maybe 4, i will have to check with my sister. Basically my grandfather was a hard man and i remember my father didn't want to have much to do with him in my younger days but we saw more of him later on, my step grand mother was a lovely woman and to me she was my grand mother, really had little time for my grand father though. I'm so glad you got to have quality time and a relationship with your nan and pop.