Mental Health

[T.S Quint]

I know I get f**ken cranky when I’m tired.
Kids are even worse.

 

[Eelementary]

The hardest part for me is that, due to his autism, he doesn't understand concepts that neuro typical kids his age do.

For example: yesterday, he was tired, due to a poor night's sleep.

He lashed out at a friend of his (as I'm sure you know, neuro divergent kids often shut down when they are overstimulated, and my son is no exception), she told him she didn't want to be his friend any more, and he can't understand why she is not his friend any more.

I've tried to explain it to him, but he shuts down even further, and gets more exasperated, going completely non-verbal, stimming, and staring off into the distance, while screaming.

It's heartbreaking.

I don't know how to communicate with my own son.

 

[Gronk]

The hardest part for me is that, due to his autism, he doesn't understand concepts that neuro typical kids his age do.

For example: yesterday, he was tired, due to a poor night's sleep.

He lashed out at a friend of his (as I'm sure you know, neuro divergent kids often shut down when they are overstimulated, and my son is no exception), she told him she didn't want to be his friend any more, and he can't understand why she is not his friend any more.

I've tried to explain it to him, but he shuts down even further, and gets more exasperated, going completely non-verbal, stimming, and staring off into the distance, while screaming.

It's heartbreaking.

I don't know how to communicate with my own son.

You’re going through such a tough situation mate. By the sounds if it, you’re doing an amazing job. Way beyond what most of us would ever have to endure.

 

[Eelementary]

You’re going through such a tough situation mate. By the sounds if it, you’re doing an amazing job. Way beyond what most of us would ever have to endure.

I'm doing my best, but it's really tough

 

[T.S Quint]

I'm doing my best, but it's really tough

Just the fact that you are doing your absolute best and obviously love your son is a testament to how good a father you are.

You e had a shit hand dealt to you, and I’m heartbroken that you have had to endure it. I applaud you and your wife for doing everything you can for the young bloke.

Everyone needs to hear it now and again, so I will tell you right now…you are a good dad.

 

[Eelementary]

Just the fact that you are doing your absolute best and obviously love your son is a testament to how good a father you are.

You e had a shit hand dealt to you, and I’m heartbroken that you have had to endure it. I applaud you and your wife for doing everything you can for the young bloke.

Everyone needs to hear it now and again, so I will tell you right now…you are a good dad.

Thank you, mate.

I really appreciate it.

Sometimes, I feel like a failure - when he's so upset, and I can't calm him down, I think to myself, "He's your son, and you can't even calm him down when he's agitated - some kind of dad you are!"

But I try to remember that we still haven't figured out the most effective way to communicate with him, and often, the best thing is to allow him to regulate himself with some time.

It's tough to see him get so upset, though - no 4-year old should be so sad/angry (not that it's his fault).

Kids are the purest, most beautiful beings we have on this planet, and seeing one upset is devastating.

 

[Avenger]

Not sure it was posted here. But I found this interview with James Packer interesting:

 

[Gronk]

Yesterday was World Mental Health Day.

At 1pm Mrs G hits me up on WhatsApp that the MIL is vomitting and has a sore back. She organises an Uber to collect her and take her to her GP. She is on the way to the GP but the GP calls and say he’s calling an ambulance.

So we mobilise and the fam are all headed for RPA. My daughter was already at RPA that day, so good.

Tests, tests. She is having a slow heart attack. Huh ? Enzymes in her blood are markers, I hear as my daughter is being briefed by the cardiologist. This slow heart attack won’t stop and is possibly causing muscle damage. They have to intervene, but she might die on the table. I think they have to say that.

So they rushed her to surgery, found blockages, put in stents, drained her lungs of vomit, grease n oil change.

At 8pm MIL is sitting up in a ward, with good colour in her face eating a cheese sandwich and complaining. Back to normal then. Happy days.

 

[T.S Quint]

Yesterday was World Mental Health Day.

At 1pm Mrs G hits me up on WhatsApp that the MIL is vomitting and has a sore back. She organises an Uber to collect her and take her to her GP. She is on the way to the GP but the GP calls and say he’s calling an ambulance.

So we mobilise and the fam are all headed for RPA. My daughter was already at RPA that day, so good.

Tests, tests. She is having a slow heart attack. Huh ? Enzymes in her blood are markers, I hear as my daughter is being briefed by the cardiologist. This slow heart attack won’t stop and is possibly causing muscle damage. They have to intervene, but she might die on the table. I think they have to say that.

So they rushed her to surgery, found blockages, put in stents, drained her lungs of vomit, grease n oil change.

At 8pm MIL is sitting up in a ward, with good colour in her face eating a cheese sandwich and complaining. Back to normal then. Happy days.

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Glad to hear its all ok.
Pretty scary getting that call that you have to rush to the hospital.

We had that call a few years ago with my partner's mum. Had a heart failure whilst she was doing a 24-hour swim competition (because that's what most 70-year-old's do, right?). Got the call at about 6 in the morning and we had to rush down to Wagga Wagga hospital to find her sitting up fine in her bed. She's on meds and everything but has been no problem since.

Got to spend a few nice days in Wagga at least.

 

[Avenger]

I hope it turns out well for her, @Gronk.

My mother in law is a shadow of herself these days. Has massive mental health issues but refuses to take medication for it. Keeps going to the Dr to search for what is causing her affliction. She’s been a hypochondriac all her life but now she is unbearable. She annoys the f**k out of me. My father in law however is a saint and he’s been copping the ‘Christopher Skase’ syndrome from her his whole marriage. I don’t know how he does it.

 

[Gronk]

I hope it turns out well for her, @Gronk.

My mother in law is a shadow of herself these days. Has massive mental health issues but refuses to take medication for it. Keeps going to the Dr to search for what is causing her affliction. She’s been a hypochondriac all her life but now she is unbearable. She annoys the f**k out of me. My father in law however is a saint and he’s been copping the ‘Christopher Skase’ syndrome from her his whole marriage. I don’t know how he does it.

It's a miracle that we got my MIL to hospital at all <in heavy serbian accent> "bože satuvaiš, what would doctors know".

 

[Gronk]

Had a heart failure whilst she was doing a 24-hour swim competition (because that's what most 70-year-old's do, right?)

That's amazing.

 

[Happy MEel]

Yesterday was World Mental Health Day.

At 1pm Mrs G hits me up on WhatsApp that the MIL is vomitting and has a sore back. She organises an Uber to collect her and take her to her GP. She is on the way to the GP but the GP calls and say he’s calling an ambulance.

So we mobilise and the fam are all headed for RPA. My daughter was already at RPA that day, so good.

Tests, tests. She is having a slow heart attack. Huh ? Enzymes in her blood are markers, I hear as my daughter is being briefed by the cardiologist. This slow heart attack won’t stop and is possibly causing muscle damage. They have to intervene, but she might die on the table. I think they have to say that.

So they rushed her to surgery, found blockages, put in stents, drained her lungs of vomit, grease n oil change.

At 8pm MIL is sitting up in a ward, with good colour in her face eating a cheese sandwich and complaining. Back to normal then. Happy days.

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Glad to hear it has all worked out. Pretty scary stuff. My brother in law had something similar in his early 30s. Massive wake up call for him and he’s now in as good a shape as he has been his whole life.

 

[hindy111]

It's a miracle that we got my MIL to hospital at all <in heavy serbian accent> "bože satuvaiš, what would doctors know".

How old is she?

 

[hindy111]

Glad to hear it has all worked out. Pretty scary stuff. My brother in law had something similar in his early 30s. Massive wake up call for him and he’s now in as good a shape as he has been his whole life.

My cousin had a heart attack and died in early 30s

 

[Gronk]

How old is she?

Mid 70's

 

[Suitman]

Yesterday was World Mental Health Day.

At 1pm Mrs G hits me up on WhatsApp that the MIL is vomitting and has a sore back. She organises an Uber to collect her and take her to her GP. She is on the way to the GP but the GP calls and say he’s calling an ambulance.

So we mobilise and the fam are all headed for RPA. My daughter was already at RPA that day, so good.

Tests, tests. She is having a slow heart attack. Huh ? Enzymes in her blood are markers, I hear as my daughter is being briefed by the cardiologist. This slow heart attack won’t stop and is possibly causing muscle damage. They have to intervene, but she might die on the table. I think they have to say that.

So they rushed her to surgery, found blockages, put in stents, drained her lungs of vomit, grease n oil change.

At 8pm MIL is sitting up in a ward, with good colour in her face eating a cheese sandwich and complaining. Back to normal then. Happy days.

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So glad it all turned out ok Gronk. Mid 70's is too young for this sort of shite to happen.

 

[Suitman]

Glad to hear its all ok.
Pretty scary getting that call that you have to rush to the hospital.

We had that call a few years ago with my partner's mum. Had a heart failure whilst she was doing a 24-hour swim competition (because that's what most 70-year-old's do, right?). Got the call at about 6 in the morning and we had to rush down to Wagga Wagga hospital to find her sitting up fine in her bed. She's on meds and everything but has been no problem since.

Got to spend a few nice days in Wagga at least.

I had the same thing happen one year.
My mum and dad were spending a few days at my place in Kalkite (Jindabyne), when I get a call from my sister that mum had had a turn and had been rushed to Cooma hospital via ambulance. The outlook was not good.
I packed my bags and headed straight to Cooma Hospital. I left at 4 am. When I get there at 9 am, mum is sitting up in bed having a cup of tea. She was released the same day.
I also spent a few extra days there and cooked all their meals just so they could both take it easy.
Thankfully, they both survived my cooking as well.

 

[Avenger]

I had the same thing happen one year.
My mum and dad were spending a few days at my place in Kalkite (Jindabyne), when I get a call from my sister that mum had had a turn and had been rushed to Cooma hospital via ambulance. The outlook was not good.
I packed my bags and headed straight to Cooma Hospital. I left at 4 am. When I get there at 9 am, mum is sitting up in bed having a cup of tea. She was released the same day.
I also spent a few extra days there and cooked all their meals just so they could both take it easy.
Thankfully, they both survived my cooking as well.

Small world Suity. My mate has a place that I have stayed in at Lotus Ave.

 

[Suitman]

Small world Suity. My mate has a place that I have stayed in at Lotus Ave.

Wow. Small world indeed.
It is such a beautiful peaceful little village.
Nothing more than some houses, a phone box and a 5G tower, all nestled beside the lake.
It has been my chill out holiday space for 4 decades and I have even been there in January on a summer holiday and seen it snow.