My attempt at a serious thread

[Houdini]

I think sometimes in the rush of our lives, we sometimes forget to look out for the most important people - ourselves

 

[Crusher]

I think sometimes in the rush of our lives, we sometimes forget to look out for the most important people - ourselves

Confucous is your middle name my good sir!

 

[Houdini]

maybe ;-)

 

[Jono Russell]

Dear people,

I feel this thread is the right place to post because I have had this dark shadow cast over me by the voodoo witches that hang around outside the male strip joints here in wellington (They thinks its wrong to pay a man $20 to sheer a sheep on you're lap). Anywho, I am at a loss in my life. I feel my guns are bigger and better the BBSF's, My face is that of a god's and my buttox well lets just say perfecto .

But every single night I lay in bed a lonely man. No one there to keep me company, You may be thinking "Why" but my friends I tell you why, I am too good everyone I come across is under me. I am hoping that someday somewhere the perfect man, Woman or Sheep is out there for me. For each day my finger edges a little closer to the trigger.

Thank you

*edit*

 

[Raider_69]

What exactly would you guys classify as being "depressed"?

by its most generalised definition, just about everyone between the ages of 16 and 25 is depressed... to at least a minor degree

hell before seeing a shrink, i went to the doc's for my insomnia, they put me on anti depresents... its a f**king farce... and ill give you the hot tip, 90% of the legitimately depressed people are the quiet ones, not the wankers making all the fuss about wanting to kill themselves, from my experience most of them are nothing more then attention seekers.

 

[Eelementary]

We can't always live up to other peoples expectations, if you can dig deep and think about what you really want, take things 1 small step at a time. Do something that makes YOU happy, not what other people want/expect you to do.

And if someone says you are crazy or cant do it, don't listen them, listen to your heart, sometimes you need to look out for yourself above others, it's not being selfish, it's taking the time to work out what you want, what direction you want to take, and discovering what you think will make you happy.

I read your entire post and thought it was really well thought out and very deep. But to me, this part in particular reaches me.

It's the area I have the most trouble with - it kills me that my life has no direction and, althoguh I shouldn't care, having people telling me, "Oh, you're smart enough to be a doctor or a lawyer - and you want to waste all that!"...It really hurts...And it doesn't help me get out if this rut I'm in.

The other day I had an idea - I figured I'd talk to my uncle's friend. He used to work security and as a bouncer, and he loved it. I figured I'd talk to him about it, get my security licence, work as a guard and one day maybe open my own security chain. Of course, I was met with harsh criticism by family anf friends, saying I was wasting my life...I shouldn't care...But I do.

But I figure I'm going to go ahead with it anyway.

 

[Dani]

That was the first sign for me too, insomnia. Which has somehow found it's way back into my life the past few months.

Depression isn't feeling down all the time.
Might help with any questions http://www.beyondblue.org.au/

 

[Raider_69]

Insomnia often leads to me feeling what some would described as depressed. Generally when im trying to sleep and cant, i think about things in life that havnt gone quite so well, mistakes ive made in life etc, and that makes me feel like sh*t, which generally leads to frustration and yes, sadness, but i dont consider myself depressed one bit... im a standard 19 year old, who has some regrets in life.

 

[Jono Russell]

How can you tell if you are an insomniac or just a tool that likes to stay up really late.

 

[Raider_69]

How can you tell if you are an insomniac or just a tool that likes to stay up really late.

easy... stay awake for as you dont feel tired, so say 24 hours... then when your absolutely wrecked, try and sleep... if you toss and turn for anything up to 4 hours trying to sleep, chances are you're an insomniac. If you can fall asleep easily, theres a good chance you're just a night owl

 

[Martli]

I read your entire post and thought it was really well thought out and very deep. But to me, this part in particular reaches me.

It's the area I have the most trouble with - it kills me that my life has no direction and, althoguh I shouldn't care, having people telling me, "Oh, you're smart enough to be a doctor or a lawyer - and you want to waste all that!"...It really hurts...And it doesn't help me get out if this rut I'm in.

The other day I had an idea - I figured I'd talk to my uncle's friend. He used to work security and as a bouncer, and he loved it. I figured I'd talk to him about it, get my security licence, work as a guard and one day maybe open my own security chain. Of course, I was met with harsh criticism by family anf friends, saying I was wasting my life...I shouldn't care...But I do.

But I figure I'm going to go ahead with it anyway.

Good on you Eele. Just becuase you're smart enough to be a doctor or a lawyer doesn't mean you'd enjoy it. I'm a strong believer that people should do what they enjoy rather than what other people tell them to do - after all you're going to be doing it for the rest of your life! I get sick of people saying their course is boring (I study accounting and so the number of these people is pretty high), becuase I know that they're only doing it becuase mummy and daddy want them to becuase the money's good.

I will always have more respect for someone who follows their passion rather than someone who picks a well paying industry and is bored sh*tless. You'll just end out breaking down. People might think that a high flying lawyer is successful, and they probably are to a certain degree, but if they're only doing it to impress people then they're just kidding themselves.

I'll be honest. I used to be like this, but when I actually started uni I quickly realsied how wrong I was. I'm lucky that I actually enjoy what I study I guess. If you told me at the start of the year that my ambition would be to own a bar rather than "just be an accountant" then I would have probably told you that you were an idiot.

When you discover your passion Eele, you'll be able to show your family and friends' and say "I told you so".

 

[Nikki]

Because when you TRY and go to sleep there are a million and one things that race thru your head and you cant settle. For me my heart also raced which is always a sign of bad things to come.

 

[Eelementary]

Thanks, mate. That's generally what I think - although their opinions do mean something to me, I figure there's no point in me doing something just for them to be "proud". I already tried Medical Science at Uni, and I didn't like it one bit.

I've tried working as a salesman, and it didn't quite work out. Currently I am working at a bar, and it's quite fun. And with the RSA and security license, it gives me further options for the future.

So things are looking up, I guess. I just wish I didn't care that much about my family's thoughts.

 

[Phillips]

i'd stay up all night and go to school the next day f**kin tired as, would go 40+ hours without sleep back in 04 and i'd sleep for something like 15/17 hours straight or just lay in bed

missed my yr 12 exams cause i was too f**kin tired and thought 'whats the point, there only peices of paper'

my parents wanted me to take medication but i told them to get f**ked

once you have a sleeping pattern is very hard to change

glad im over that sh*t now

 

[Jono Russell]

easy... stay awake for as you dont feel tired, so say 24 hours... then when your absolutely wrecked, try and sleep... if you toss and turn for anything up to 4 hours trying to sleep, chances are you're an insomniac. If you can fall asleep easily, theres a good chance you're just a night owl

on most nights I can't go to bed before 3am, there is no reason for it. I just feel like a kid hyped up in red cordial, I don't want to lay down and be quite id do anything to stay awake. Watch dvd's. chat on msn or surf the forums, but when I do sleep I fall asleep just fine.

 

[TooheysNew]

My sleep habits quite frankly are sh*t, but they're a necessity. I sleep between 3am and 8am every night, and that's about it.

 

[Martli]

Thanks, mate. That's generally what I think - although their opinions do mean something to me, I figure there's no point in me doing something just for them to be "proud". I already tried Medical Science at Uni, and I didn't like it one bit.

I've tried working as a salesman, and it didn't quite work out. Currently I am working at a bar, and it's quite fun. And with the RSA and security license, it gives me further options for the future.

So things are looking up, I guess. I just wish I didn't care that much about my family's thoughts.

Yeah, I kinda know the feeling. Like when your parents say "i'm not angry, just disappointed" when you're in trouble. You can't help but feel really bad because you've let down your parents. I honestly can't offer a soultion to beating it though. I guess you gotta just struggle through it, or at least explain to them that you'd rather enjoy life following your passion than enter an industry that society deems "successful".

 

[Nikki]

Hey Eele, talk to Eela and Tyler on the Eels forum. They have both recently started doing security work for NES security. Tyler actually worked at a couple of Eels games this year.

See the positive thing about your choice is you already have a plan for the future. So sure, you are considering working sec but you are also thinking of opening your own business. And that can me more rewarding than anything. I do Avon, which is almost like having your own business only with financial backing and the last couple of months have just been awesome. I am worked off my feet trying to build the business which doesnt leave any time for negative thoughts to enter my head.

 

[Jono Russell]

My sleep habits quite frankly are sh*t, but they're a necessity. I sleep between 3am and 8am every night, and that's about it.

I am the same 2 - 3am and wake up at 7am for work.

The part that sucks is you're body gets used to this after a while and on weekends when you can sleep in, you are awake with the birds.

 

[Eelementary]

Hey Eele, talk to Eela and Tyler on the Eels forum. They have both recently started doing security work for NES security. Tyler actually worked at a couple of Eels games this year.

See the positive thing about your choice is you already have a plan for the future. So sure, you are considering working sec but you are also thinking of opening your own business. And that can me more rewarding than anything. I do Avon, which is almost like having your own business only with financial backing and the last couple of months have just been awesome. I am worked off my feet trying to build the business which doesnt leave any time for negative thoughts to enter my head.

Really? That's awesome!

My parents bring up the usual "Oh what if something happens to you?" speel...But the way see it, if you're going to be a bouncer or a security guard...Well, realistically, it's a risk you have to be willing to take. And it's not a testosterone thing - I don't think I'd enjoy man-handling people for a living "lol". But like you said - some people have great opportunities presented to them, such as working at Eels games or like some people I know who worked security for The Rock when he came out to Australia last summer!