this is stupid. there is no way they should be stood down. i've mentioned this in a different forum as well..
to be really honest i don't think this is a huge thing. now without trying to be controversial or offensive the chick was probably a bit of a goer who was all for some action with a couple of the boys, but then probably didn't want video evidence of her ummm... lets just say behaving in such a manner in case it got out and family, employers, etc ever found out about it.
as for the toilet situation, go to any club these days and girls are always in the mens whether its for drugs, a bit of action or just cuz the line for the females is too long.