Ask LU - The relationship advice thread

[Moffo]

yeh locking lips is cheating....forgiveable but still cheating

 

[Cliffhanger]

knew people would automatically assume it was me. Actually shire boy is the random pasher, and he can't remember a thing about it, shame others on fb remember it clearly.

Do you believe it's cheating? After all what really matters is how you feel about it and weather you feel betrayed or not.

 

[Twizzle]

Ok here's a curly one for you, does a drunken party pash with a random constitute cheating?

what are you guys like 15 or something ?

hell I bet you never even played spin the bottle when you were growing up

drunken pash par the course at a party, should be more of it

if he took her home and boned her, probably a reason to get jealous but otherwise harden up

 

[Moffo]

what are you guys like 15 or something ?

hell I bet you never even played spin the bottle when you were growing up

drunken pash par the course at a party, should be more of it

if he took her home and boned her, probably a reason to get jealous but otherwise harden up

step up to the plate, toughguy....

 

[Twizzle]

bend over

 

[Moffo]

oooo kinky

 

[Twizzle]

lol, image fail

 

[adamkungl]

Ok here's a curly one for you, does a drunken party pash with a random constitute cheating?

yeh locking lips is cheating....forgiveable but still cheating

^this. Not the end of the world...but you can pretend it is for a while...

 

[Red Bear]

The fail is strong with this one.

Went to ask out a girl i've been keen on a while on new years, but managed to tread in spew on the train platform. She laughed (as did others around) and got on the train, went home then went down coast for three weeks. Was going to go over hers the next morning but when she contacted me she was just leaving and I was too hungover to move, with my car two km away.

Somewhat positive messaging and shit since but, well, f**k!

 

[Hallatia]

it would have been a cute and funny story if you asked her out during that incident, but seems you've missed that opportunity.

 

[Red Bear]

I know, I sure have.

In fact as I was about to say something some friend pointed out I was in spew, they all got on the train and I was, well, done. The pointing out of me being in spew is what ultimately cost me

 

[Joker's Wild]

You're still in with a chance RB when she gets back I reckon. You have a nice ice breaker already " hey remember me, i stood in vom"

 

[Raider_69]

knew people would automatically assume it was me. Actually shire boy is the random pasher, and he can't remember a thing about it, shame others on fb remember it clearly.

i was merely putting it into context that you'd be able to better relate too, it seems you already have that context.

it is cheating... is that infraction worth punting him? thats up to you. I know plenty of women who would. I also know plenty who wouldnt give a shit. Up to you on where you stand

From my perspective in my relationship, it is cheating for both of us and would be tough to forgive

 

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

Ok here's a curly one for you, does a drunken party pash with a random constitute cheating?

If it were me, if we had been dating for less than 6-12 months then she's done no questions. More than that would depend on how I felt about the person. If I really liked them, I probably would be shitty for a very long period of time at best. For me, it's not the pash that would anger me so much as the lack of trust I would have in the person. So in saying, about 99.9% of the time I would leave them.

 

[StormChaser]

The thing that pisses me off is that he didn't tell me, I had to find out on fb and look like a total knob, plus his claims of "not remembering" just makes me suss about all the other times he's been out on the piss with the boys and what's gone on. One little random snog I can forgive, but it's just made me have doubts.

 

[Cliffhanger]

If he didn't even come clean and claims to have forgotten he probably isn't worth it.

 

[bartman]

Hmm, tricky to think that if you're committed you'd let that happen without some light-bulb going off in your head somewhere about the person that you're normally with... Though on the other hand if he was too drunk to remember it happening, he'd be too drunk to try and prevent it - and that would also explain why he didn't man up and admit it and keep the trust (relatively) intact.

Your call whether you consider it cheating and what to do, but it must suck to have it all over facebook - something's wrong there. Either way, imo he needs to know that he owes you one big time, and that there's no second warnings.

 

[StormChaser]

Yeah I dunno......part of me is like, it was only a snog, I've been guilty of that in the past (not with him though) and the other part is pissed the f**k off! But
then is that only my bruised ego? like why the f**k would he do that to ME? lolol

 

[Chicken_Hunter]

I wouldnt class it as cheating, but thats just me. If it happened more then once then its cheating. But it all depends on the relationships and what your into. I guess if you are into multiple partners then its cool.

 

[bartman]

Yeah, I've done the drunken party pash too way back when... but even drunk I knew that I was in the wrong, and that my gf at the time would have every right to kick me to the kerb.... Even though it's just a snog, if you want things with this guy to last long-term I reckon you guys have to talk all of the feelings out and move forward by setting agreed standards for your future.