Ask LU - The relationship advice thread

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

Oh man....a mate likes me...and I'm unsure I like her back...actually I probably don't...but I send her a text asking what she's doing tomorrow night 'YOU please' sigh lol what the f**k do I say?!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bc5BzRSkc8o

In reality, be honest. If you don't like her now, you're not going to like her in the future, root or no root.

 

[Shorty]

I thought so...lol sigh!

 

[adamkungl]

Shorty....from very recent personal experience...if you don't think there's anything there, there probably isn't

 

[Different kind of Rabbit]

If in doubt, eat her out. If you don't know, give her a go. If unsure plough the whore. ...

I could go on but I'm sure you get the idea...

 

[Hallatia]

Shorty, you never know til you give it a go. What would it hurt

 

[Big Pete]

Their friendship.

Stick to your guns Shorts. If you're not feeling it then you best let it be.

 

[Shorty]

I don't use girls for sex, DKOR, especially not a close friend lol.
But I have no idea what to say, I'm genuinely shocked....and I need to be careful because she isn't going to be happy!

 

[adamkungl]

Their friendship.

Yeah. It is *not* a good feeling to lead a close friend on, then realise you aren't feeling it and have to tell them. Last week was an interesting week...

 

[Jobdog]

If in doubt, eat her out. If you don't know, give her a go. If unsure plough the whore. ...

I could go on but I'm sure you get the idea...

:lol:!! Touche.

Shorty, just smash her

 

[Raider_69]

id have a crack

 

[Cliffhanger]

Oh man....a mate likes me...and I'm unsure I like her back...actually I probably don't...but I send her a text asking what she's doing tomorrow night 'YOU please' sigh lol what the f**k do I say?!

Give it a chance.

I think too often we are guilty of pigeon holing people because they don't fit all the criteria we set for our ideal partner. We end up taking for granted the people who really make us happy because we cannot tick off everything on the check list.

 

[Big Pete]

She's testing you Shorty.

Just laugh it off and defer the rejection until later. If you don't like her, don't do it to make her happy and on the flipside don't give that sms a serious answer either otherwise you're just going to humiliate her.

I disagree with those suggesting they should give it a shot regardless. Even if there are genuine feelings that transition from friendship to relationship is bloody difficult & if things go awry the results can be terrible.

 

[adamkungl]

Give it a chance.

I think too often we are guilty of pigeon holing people because they don't fit all the criteria we set for our ideal partner. We end up taking for granted the people who really make us happy because we cannot tick off everything on the check list.

I thought the same thing. But...someone can be attractive, and awesome, and tick all the boxes, and there still can be something missing. If there's no feeling or spark or whatever you want to call it, it won't work (for me anyway)

 

[Scott Gourley's Lovechild]

If in doubt, eat her out

:lol:

 

[Cliffhanger]

I thought the same thing. But...someone can be attractive, and awesome, and tick all the boxes, and there still can be something missing. If there's no feeling or spark or whatever you want to call it, it won't work (for me anyway)

What I was saying about the criteria is we chase it even when the person who fits it doesn't make us happy.

Also we often don't allow a spark to develop because we have preconceived ideas about who's right for us.

 

[Cliffhanger]

She's testing you Shorty.

Just laugh it off and defer the rejection until later. If you don't like her, don't do it to make her happy and on the flipside don't give that sms a serious answer either otherwise you're just going to humiliate her.

I disagree with those suggesting they should give it a shot regardless. Even if there are genuine feelings that transition from friendship to relationship is bloody difficult & if things go awry the results can be terrible.

Life is all about risk BP. If you're not willing to take risks you'll never make most of life.

 

[Big Pete]

She doesn't like her though.

She shouldn't take that sort of risk if there aren't genuine feelings involved. It's just asking for trouble.

 

[Raider_69]

she doesnt have to like her pete

hit it and quit it, y'll know what im sayin?

 

[Shorty]

Some of you boys lol....I can't do that...and not to her.
I'm fine to do that with girls I don't have a deep friendships with but yeah.....and I dunno I'm the type of person that I either feel it almost immediately (crazy I know) or I don't.

 

[adamkungl]

Also we often don't allow a spark to develop because we have preconceived ideas about who's right for us.

Could be it. Believe me, I'm very confused right now.